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Christmas gift

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Riverworld3D Thu 29-Nov-18 15:35:33

Hi all,
I have two grandchildren, a girl age 23 and a boy age 14.
I usually give them a fairly substantial gift of cash in a card each. This year my granddaughter has set up home with her boyfriend. Do I just add his name to her card and money, or buy him something for himself ? A bit confused to know what to do for the best. Thank you in advance.

aggie Thu 29-Nov-18 15:39:37

I wouldn't add him in , it is her present nor would I give him cash . I wonder is it time to rein back on the gifts . She is an adult , does she give you a gift , visit / take you out ?

Gonegirl Thu 29-Nov-18 15:47:44

Buy him a shirt and a bit of chocolate.

cavewoman Thu 29-Nov-18 15:49:31

I would add his name to the card and money. They have set up home together therefore a committed couple. Plus it's easier than having to think of a present for him.

Riverworld3D Thu 29-Nov-18 15:52:16

Hi Aggie, thank you for your reply. Yes, she buys me lovely thought out gifts.

Riverworld3D Thu 29-Nov-18 15:53:05

Thank you, a good idea

Riverworld3D Thu 29-Nov-18 15:54:41

Thank you. I hope these replies are coming to the right person. I am totally new on here !

Marthjolly1 Thu 29-Nov-18 16:12:56

Have you met her partner and accepted him into the family. I would put his name on the card if yes. They are a couple now. Your DGD would probably like to think he is included.

M0nica Thu 29-Nov-18 16:13:08

I would give your DGD her usual present and give him a bottle of wine or something like that. Your DGD is young and the relationship is short. it might not last long. If the relationship proves long lasting, in a couple of years, you may like to treat them as a unit for Christmas, but take your time at the moment.

Lynne59 Thu 29-Nov-18 17:14:21

You could get them a gift to share - a meal for two, a spa experience, cinema tickets, etc. Groupon has offers. Last year, my eldest son got us (husband and me) a Groupon offer for 2 nights' bed and breakfast at a country inn. It cost £50, which was fantastic value. We went last weekend.

Riverworld3D Thu 29-Nov-18 17:28:09

Hi Martha, yes they are buying a house together.

Riverworld3D Thu 29-Nov-18 17:29:49

Hi Monica, they are buying a house together, so it is pretty committed.

Riverworld3D Thu 29-Nov-18 17:31:12

Thanks Lynne59, that sounds like a nice idea.

janeainsworth Thu 29-Nov-18 17:38:19

DGD is young and the relationship is short. it might not last long
That made me smile monica.
At that age I had been married for nearly 3 years and still am grin
Riverworld I would just include his name in the card along with the cash.

Teetime Thu 29-Nov-18 17:50:22

I would juts put his name on the card.

Riverworld3D Thu 29-Nov-18 19:55:44

Thank you, Jane Ainsworth.

Jobey68 Thu 29-Nov-18 20:52:04

Yes I agree add his name in the card and maybe an added edible treat and a bottle between them! I was married with two baby's at your granddaughters age and am still married 30 years later, it's only right to be respectful of their relationship.

lemongrove Thu 29-Nov-18 23:52:34

Same as Teetime says, put his name on the card but the money is for her.She is your DGC and he isn’t.

Nata Tue 11-Dec-18 11:58:51

I wouldn't put his name on the card, better buy him a nice Christmas thingy. Maybe next year, if he's a good boy, he should get the card tchgrin

elmaasheley147 Wed 16-Jan-19 10:33:50

Agree with Monica

Floradora9 Wed 16-Jan-19 16:43:05

No it is her gift if she want to share OK but give it to her.

notanan2 Wed 16-Jan-19 17:00:35

I am very close to me in laws and have known them for years to the point where I am now close to them in my own right regardless of DH.

I still get less substantial token gifts from them than DH and thats how it should be.

Sometimes they will get us both something for the house, or a voucher for a meal out together, but dh's gifts from his parents are still his