Alone again thread

Positive attitude there, Nana05!
It is the days following Christmas which I find long. All my usual activities are closed until after Jan 6. ( choirs, voluntary work) and DH will be away with his family.
I shall use the time to explore on my own if the weather is good, or get stuck in to sorting family photos and updating Family History, while listening to my favourite music, including Carols, which suddenly disappear on Boxing Day, despite the old idea of the Twelve Days of Christmas.

Have just found out that we don’t fit into any of our children’s plans for Christmas this year their loss not mine

I love the OP

I`ll be alone the whole time between christmas and boxing day, its far too long these days. A few hours away on christmas day and another few hours later and that is it but I refuse to feel lonely. Alone and lonely are different, you can be lonely in a crowd

Plenty of upsides if we can manage to think outside the box, no food stress, no constant chatter. Pick at what we want when we want, go out when we want. Mybe a few coping strategies would not come amiss. A few tips

One year I bought a kit of pieces to make a spinning wheel, that was 200% successful, I was busy the whole time and finished with something lovely that I use now. I cannot think of anything much this year, am hoping for dry days so I can cycle in the fresh air. I have some nibbles, super lovely chocs, dvds, books, port, sherry, some special frozen ready meals arrive next week.

I did wonder silly granny
I think nannykisses joined the thread about 10 days after I started it.

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Maw ? ?

Just seen this thread Maw, you are clever.

I loved the days when I did Christmas Dinner for up to 20 , the tables borrowed from the Parochial Hall , the mountains of veg , the Turkey too big for the oven , the stress.... !
This year the stress is , who do I inflict my bossy person onto ?when my preference is to pay a fleeting visit and home to hunker down with the box of sweets ?

Are you sure Maw?

I thought I was the OP?

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It was meant tongue-in-cheek cheek anyway!
Embarras de richesse when contemplating where and with whom I shall be spending Christmas this year.

It's just another day. With both our DC at opposite ends of the world and parents all gone I'm quite relieved that DH and I can spend Christmas doing whatever we want - turkey or not etc etc. There's always far too much pressure to feel you should be part of some fictional family idyll, which rarely lives up to expectations. I know, bah humbug, but that's how I feel!

Widowed two years ago last week sillygrandma - not so silly after all.
Hope your Christmas brings you the joy you will be bringing to others.

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im alone every xmas day, so i take my self out with camera, packed lunch hot drink and i enjoy the parking anywhere, the quiet roads, and not many people about, then home to a nice dinner.

We will be spending Christmas with just the two of us for the first time in 58 years and I am quite looking forward to it though DH, who does none of the work, is not.

DD and family are off to New York after a difficult and demanding year: DS is dividing his time between ex-wife and the children and new partner and her family. I am looking forward to far less cooking and not trying to please everyone - and control of the tv remote!

I think I upset my hairdresser last week when she asked me what I was doing at Christmas and I said probably painting my bedroom. To me, it is a normal day and if there is rubbish (for me) on TV I can do exactly what I want and when I want.

I have spent many years on my own on Christmas Day, the days before abd afterwards also but it does not bother me.

I'm another who will be alone at Christmas - have been since DH died, except for one year when I spent Christmas with my brother and his family in Australia. I usually won't see anyone for 3 days at least (one year it was a week).

It is easy to sit and feel sorry for myself but instead I try to remember all the good times, how DH could always make me laugh and then please myself what and when I eat (and drink!) and watch my favourite Christmas DVDs. I still decorate the house (although not as much as I used to)

DD2 wants us to spend Christmas with her and seeing as they're about to move two hours nearer it should be an easy decision. I was beginning to hate the long drive to their old house as there are always traffic/weather problems at Christmas.

DH's failing health means it may not be possible though so although I've booked the dogs into kennels we may have to cancel at the last minute.

What will be will be. Christmas is not high on my list of priorities this year.

Oops! Year before last.

I'll be on my own on Christmas day.
I don't mind, really, as there isn't really anyone to "have me"

I shall eat whatever I want, when I want, watch what I want to on tv. (Last year it was 'escape to the country' all day!)
and have a nice time.

Spare a thought for those who have to put up with unpleasant family, cringeworthy traditions, enforced jollity, drunken relatives, or a totally boring partner who doesn’t really do Christmas - and be glad you have your own space.

Think that is an excellent piece of advice Cabbie21

Difficult I know, but can I suggest you try to
Either treat it as any other day on your own, and ignore the day
Or plan to treat yourself, watch what you want on TV , eat what you like when you like.
Spare a thought for those who have to put up with unpleasant family, cringeworthy traditions, enforced jollity, drunken relatives, or a totally boring partner who doesn’t really do Christmas - and be glad you have your own space.
I don’t mean to sound harsh, just trying to give another way of looking at it.

Haha love it MawB