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Alone again thread

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MawB Tue 22-Oct-19 21:01:37

On the first thread of Christmas
I had a little moan
I thought I might be all on my own

On the second thread of Christmas
There were a couple more
My sister and my brother in law

On the third thread of Christmas
I felt a little cross
My sister says” Can she bring her horse?”

On the fourth thread of Christmas
I thought I’d better buy
At least a lovely ham and turkey pie

On the fifth thread of Christmas
My brother broke the news
His triplets were coming along too.

On the sixth thread of Christmas
I knew that I would need
A duvet and some extra sheets

On the seventh thread of Christmas
I went up to the loft
but the Christmas tree was eaten by moths

On the eighth thread of Christmas
Before getting ready to go out
I thought I’d better put on the sprouts

On the ninth thread of Christmas
The grocery order came
But it wasn’t the one I’d booked in my name

On the tenth thread of Christmas
I went to peel the spuds
But the whole lot turned out to be duds

On the eleventh thread of Christmas
My guests started to arrive
Were we really going to be TWENTY FIVE?

On the twelfth thread of Christmas
I went to get the booze
Packed it in a suitcase
And went off on a two week CRUISE.


Grannybags Tue 22-Oct-19 21:12:14

That's a good idea MawB Can I join you please? 😂🍷🥂🍹

kittylester Tue 22-Oct-19 21:20:01

Brilliant maw. wine

AllotmentLil Tue 22-Oct-19 21:40:36


Tangerine Tue 22-Oct-19 21:47:00

Excellent! How long did it take you to compose?

Septimia Tue 22-Oct-19 21:47:58

Love it!

It reminds me of the Christmas that started out with mum, DS, DH and me. Then MiL, FiL and BiL were added. Next I was informed that SiL, husband and 2 children were coming. Mum and I had to go and buy another turkey! At least she and I shared the cooking.

Bathsheba Tue 22-Oct-19 21:57:36

Haha brilliant Maw. I hope you enjoy your cruise wink

Nortsat46 Wed 23-Oct-19 08:39:54

Very funny and clever ... Thank you MawB for starting our day with a smile 💐

NannyKisses Sat 02-Nov-19 01:54:51

Hi to all that are reading this. Christmas is coming & I’m so sad that I will be alone. My Daughters Husband doesn’t like me & couldn’t care less if I was alive or not.
The friends that have asked me what are you up to over Christmas, haven’t even given the slightest concern or care when I reply with I will sadly be alone.
I don’t do things for people to get anything back, although I have done so much for friends recently & in the past So it hurts that no one seems to care about me.
Am I a bad person? Why don’t people want me around?
Sadly I have illnesses which stop me being able to volunteer anywhere, although I do give money toys presents & food to my local charities
Has anyone gone through or going through what I’m going through? Xx

Lyndiloo Sat 02-Nov-19 03:22:03

I feel so sorry for you, NannyKisses, that you will be alone over Christmas. You say you have friends. Why not invite some of them for an evening at your house? A few bottles of wine, a few nibbles ...?

What about your daughter and her family? Regardless of what your son-in-law thinks about you, you could offer the same invitation to them.

Think about it!

NannyKisses Sat 02-Nov-19 21:54:28

Hi Lyndiloo. Thank you so much for your reply.
It is a really good idea to invite friends around, but sadly no one wants to come in the evening as they will all be with family or drinking so can’t drive & I can’t pick them up as I have osteoporosis which affects my bones especially my hands. Plus I feel really let down by them for not one of them inviting me to spend Christmas Day with them. I have done so very much for every friend Iv ever had but no one does anything for me ( I’m so sorry to feel so sorry for myself)
My Daughter & young Grandchildren won’t leave her Husband she will do anything he says for a quiet life
Maybe I could see if anyone would like to come to me on Boxing Day at least I’ll only be alone on Christmas Day. It just makes me so sad. I love the feeling of getting ready to go to my Daughters or to a restaurant ( that’s what we all used to do when my Mum Dad & Grandmother was alive) they all died within a year of each other the last one dying 4 years ago. It just brakes my heart xx

welbeck Sat 02-Nov-19 23:30:41

maybe you could search online for any local community Christmas day events for people who would otherwise be on their own.
churches often do these.
could you swallow your pride and contact a few locally, explain your situation and see if they can suggest anything.
you could look them up and send a kind of round-robin email. it's worth a try and you might hear of other events.

Lyndiloo Sun 03-Nov-19 02:21:37

An evening at your house doesn't necessarily have to be on Christmas Day or Boxing Day. How about the weekend before Christmas - say, Friday 20th or Saturday 21st? Do friends live near enough to just get a cab home, instead of driving?

I know that that doesn't get over the problem of you being alone over the two important days of Christmas, but it would give you something to look forward to. (And you never know - someone might just invite you back to theirs.)

And Welbeck's suggestion of contacting your local church is a good idea. They often have a lot going on over the Christmas period that maybe you could participate in.

It's very sad that your daughter and friends seem to have abandoned you. Could you perhaps have a word with your daughter?

Resurgam123 Tue 05-Nov-19 07:21:40

My Mr grumpy does not do Christmas .
(He is Mr Asperger. ) who has also had surgery for a meningioma.
I will acknowledge that, but it does not make me feel much better.

There is nothing worse than being on your own when you really know or feel many others are having some pleasant company.
I have never forgotten the christmas when he was still in bed in the afternoon and I drove off for a walk on my own .
There was no one else about.

Emma49 Tue 05-Nov-19 08:50:43

Haha love it MawB

Cabbie21 Tue 05-Nov-19 09:21:43

Difficult I know, but can I suggest you try to
Either treat it as any other day on your own, and ignore the day
Or plan to treat yourself, watch what you want on TV , eat what you like when you like.
Spare a thought for those who have to put up with unpleasant family, cringeworthy traditions, enforced jollity, drunken relatives, or a totally boring partner who doesn’t really do Christmas - and be glad you have your own space.
I don’t mean to sound harsh, just trying to give another way of looking at it.

jacq10 Tue 05-Nov-19 10:13:07

Spare a thought for those who have to put up with unpleasant family, cringeworthy traditions, enforced jollity, drunken relatives, or a totally boring partner who doesn’t really do Christmas - and be glad you have your own space.

Think that is an excellent piece of advice Cabbie21

MissAdventure Tue 05-Nov-19 10:17:08

I'll be on my own on Christmas day.
I don't mind, really, as there isn't really anyone to "have me" smile

I shall eat whatever I want, when I want, watch what I want to on tv. (Last year it was 'escape to the country' all day!)
and have a nice time.

MissAdventure Tue 05-Nov-19 10:17:50

Oops! Year before last.

merlotgran Tue 05-Nov-19 10:23:08

DD2 wants us to spend Christmas with her and seeing as they're about to move two hours nearer it should be an easy decision. I was beginning to hate the long drive to their old house as there are always traffic/weather problems at Christmas.

DH's failing health means it may not be possible though so although I've booked the dogs into kennels we may have to cancel at the last minute.

What will be will be. Christmas is not high on my list of priorities this year.

sunseeker Tue 05-Nov-19 10:26:18

I'm another who will be alone at Christmas - have been since DH died, except for one year when I spent Christmas with my brother and his family in Australia. I usually won't see anyone for 3 days at least (one year it was a week).

It is easy to sit and feel sorry for myself but instead I try to remember all the good times, how DH could always make me laugh and then please myself what and when I eat (and drink!) and watch my favourite Christmas DVDs. I still decorate the house (although not as much as I used to)

Charleygirl5 Tue 05-Nov-19 11:07:45

I think I upset my hairdresser last week when she asked me what I was doing at Christmas and I said probably painting my bedroom. To me, it is a normal day and if there is rubbish (for me) on TV I can do exactly what I want and when I want.

I have spent many years on my own on Christmas Day, the days before abd afterwards also but it does not bother me.

GrannySomerset Tue 05-Nov-19 11:31:01

We will be spending Christmas with just the two of us for the first time in 58 years and I am quite looking forward to it though DH, who does none of the work, is not.

DD and family are off to New York after a difficult and demanding year: DS is dividing his time between ex-wife and the children and new partner and her family. I am looking forward to far less cooking and not trying to please everyone - and control of the tv remote!

jannxxx Mon 18-Nov-19 14:54:52

im alone every xmas day, so i take my self out with camera, packed lunch hot drink and i enjoy the parking anywhere, the quiet roads, and not many people about, then home to a nice dinner.

Sillygrandma5GK Mon 18-Nov-19 20:33:16

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