Christmas Day dinner

There are a number of options.

1) say 'NO' and if your DD goes on about it tell her it is emotional black mail, that you are 74, have been doing Christmas dinners for over half a century and if DD wants the full deal then she must cook it herself. Do not let her brow beat you - she only does it because it works

2) Book a meal for you all in a retaurant/pub.

3) Book yourself into a hotel for the duration and tell her, they can always come round for an hour or two between meals.

Whatever option you choose (and stick to), it will only be for this Christmas because if you stick to your guns, your DD should get the message and not hassle you next year because she knows what will happen.

Tell her "No".
If she wants all that food, let her cook it.

Can you buy things ready made, so you just have to put them straight in the oven ? Frozen turkey joint, ready stuffed ,frozen veg, roasties and gravy in a pouch. Cheese board crackers and trifle . No prep and less washing up.
No Christmas misery here. But there is only myself to please so it’s not the same.

I don't think you should be browbeaten by your daughter.

If you do end up cooking the meal, try and cut corners with frozen roast potatoes, ready made stuffing etc.

If this doesn't suit your daughter, let her do it.

Would you be in a position to go out to a restaurant possibly?

We are having vegetarian wellingtons from Lidl. We had them last year and they were very good. Why can’t you buy ready cooked turkey, frozen roast potatoes etc? If she wants the big meal then she should cook it.

I know what you mean.

If you can't work in the kitchen together, can you bear to let your daughter loose in your kitchen? Perhaps tell her that you'll buy the food but she'll have to cook it as you don't feel up to it.

If she doesn't like cooking it either, then perhaps she will agree to having Christmas lunch out somewhere.