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Quiet Christmas next year ?

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Notjustaprettyface Sun 29-Dec-19 09:29:53

For various reasons , Christmas hasn’t been great this year .
I have cooked for 9 people , had 4 people to stay plus a dog for 5 days and there has been some family discord
All this has made me think that I would like to spend Christmas differently next year
However , I can’t sort it out in my head because if I just spend Christmas with my husband it’s going to be a bit dull as he is not the most gregarious of people and the other problem is that if we went away somewhere , I wouldn’t get to see my only grandson who will b 18 months by then ( having said that, it is possible that DD will want to go away anyway with DgS as she was part of the family arguments )
Any ideas what I should do ?

Iam64 Sun 29-Dec-19 09:35:33

I bet many of us are feeling similarly tired NJAPF. My plan is to wait till closer to next Christmas and see what our loved ones would like to do x

Beechnut Sun 29-Dec-19 09:37:56

After catering for various family members over the years one year me and DH had a Christmas with just the two of us. It was one of the nicest times we had at Christmas only pleasing ourselves. We were not gregarious people.

So my suggestion is have one like that. If you find it’s not for you it doesn’t have to be like that on another Christmas time.

fourormore Sun 29-Dec-19 12:51:36

Obviously they are dearer than short breaks at other times of the year but DH and I have just returned from a 4night coach trip - we left home on 23rd and returned on 27th.
For various reasons we cannot spend THE day with either of our sons and their families and so our daughter always invites us to be with them. We know that she never minds but we feel that it is unfair for her to take us every year but they won't come to us as the teenage GC aren't keen from emerging from their beds, let alone dress to go out!!!
We spent Christmas with some very interesting, mainly 'older' people from many different parts of the UK and from various ways of life.
No driving, no shopping, no cooking, no clearing up afterwards - it was a really good break. What was there not to like when a family get-together is not possible!!!
Worth considering - if DH wants peace he can have it but you can socialise with others.