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Christmas day

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Fuchsiarose Mon 26-Oct-20 22:42:47

Not looking forward to Christmas. It took me five years to get out of a Christmas get together I did not want to be in. I would rather be with ten strangers. But I know covid will prevent that.

Lucca Tue 03-Nov-20 08:44:27

But sympathies for your health issues OP

Oopsadaisy4 Tue 03-Nov-20 08:41:05

Right , I got the wrong end of the stick, you will be alone for Christmas as your ‘Inviters’ got the message that you didn’t want to be with them after a number of years.

So that’s ok then, see your sister?

Fuchsiarose Tue 03-Nov-20 02:38:25

Many thanks witzend. This old thing is not so old. More an independent pensioner who revels in having a mind of her own. Not my fault I have those around me who like to disguise caring for the one who lives alone, and loves solitude. Their offerings mainly more about them and control of another. Even if I was 95, I would still reject being managed by others

Witzend Mon 02-Nov-20 22:57:35

Must say I’ve heard of people being very persistent - ‘Oh, you can’t possibly be all on your own at Christmas!* despite the person’s protests that they’ll be quite happy, and in fact would prefer it.
I can imagine feelings of being very nobly kind to the poor old thing, but that’s probably my nasty inner cynic (maybe not all that inner, either 😈) coming out.

Sparkling Mon 02-Nov-20 18:11:23

Fuschiarose, just who are all these people you don’t like but try to have your company anyway. If you don’t like them, just say you prefer to be on your own. Say please do not ask again as you dread Christmas because of it. No doubt you won’t hear from them again but as you don’t like them it won’t matter. It’s best to be straight with people I think they must be very kind to keep trying.

MawB2 Tue 27-Oct-20 23:43:42

My apologies I took it as still trying to get out of this get-together.

Fuchsiarose Tue 27-Oct-20 19:55:35

I could spend Christmas with my sister, but she is like an escapologist with her family. She dreams of the day, that her and I can disappear xmas and new year in a campervan or travelling abroad. I told her we would be to old and ill when that day

Marydoll Tue 27-Oct-20 19:51:56

How awful for you, as if life is not hard enough just now. sad

Marydoll Tue 27-Oct-20 19:47:45

Could you not spend Christmas with your sister?

Fuchsiarose Tue 27-Oct-20 19:45:43

Yes. I am on my own. Did have amputation, been at hospital again today. Sister picked me up. Taxi there. My sister and I were both saying today that the only thing our parents gave us was resilience. We still put flowers on our mothers grave. We cannot condemn her for her Learning Difficulty. Which we did not know about until our twenties. Also, I will only worry about things when I am dead. Our mother did her best with the limited skill set she had

Charleygirl5 Tue 27-Oct-20 19:44:20

I agree with Marydoll if it is true how on earth are you coping? That is really awful. I would forget about Christmas unless of course you would need a friend to help- it rather changes things I think.

Marydoll Tue 27-Oct-20 19:38:50

Fuchsiarose, have you had an amputation? I hope it was one of those predictive texts error and not for real!
That's awful! I hope you are not on your own.

Fuchsiarose Tue 27-Oct-20 19:33:20

Oopsadaisy. Urggh! It's just too far from my mind ,one day, even one minute would be too long.

Oopsadaisy4 Tue 27-Oct-20 18:21:10

Stop hinting and tell them straight that you don’t want to be with them.

However, it’s only 1 day, make it your Christmas present to them.

Summerlove Tue 27-Oct-20 18:04:56


Not really.... I spent last five years finding excuses not to go.... even illness. But they came round Christmas to try and pick me up anyway..... the invites for this Christmas are already coming in.... these people as well. Do they never take the hint. Covid sropping me from going elsewhere.... plus the amputation I just had which will surely bring them out of the woodwork in

Can you not just tell them you are uncomfortable visiting this year?

FannyCornforth Tue 27-Oct-20 17:53:19


Do you remember the Just Say No campaign?

Just say no! (Thank you)

Hi Maw, it's quite a confusing thread.
But op isn't going anywhere for Christmas, and I think that she regrets making excuses in the past.

FannyCornforth Tue 27-Oct-20 17:51:09


FannyCornforth Fuchsia is looking for a reason not to socialise with an undefined group at Christmas. What better excuse than saying she has COVID or is in quarantine because she was in the company of someone who has it?

Sorry to reiterate this.
No she isn't. She hasn't spent Christmas with them for five years.
Please read her posts

MawB2 Tue 27-Oct-20 17:10:54

Do you remember the Just Say No campaign?

Just say no! (Thank you)

M0nica Tue 27-Oct-20 17:01:05

FannyCornforth Fuchsia is looking for a reason not to socialise with an undefined group at Christmas. What better excuse than saying she has COVID or is in quarantine because she was in the company of someone who has it?

Lisagran Tue 27-Oct-20 11:03:01

I have to ask, Fuchsiarose, have you really just had an amputation?

Fuchsiarose Tue 27-Oct-20 08:32:25

That's true. But where would I find such a person. Anyone know of meet a xmas dinner buddy

Puzzler61 Tue 27-Oct-20 08:20:50

Fucshiarose you could enjoy Christmas 2020 if you choose a person whose company you enjoy - who is also on their own - and invite them to share a meal, socially distanced at all times, in your home on the day.
NB It does depend where you live if this is allowed.
It could be your best Christmas Day for a long time. 🌲

lemongrove Tue 27-Oct-20 08:10:53

If you are now out of some social thing you didn’t like at Christmas, then what’s the problem? Better to be home on your own isn’t it?

FannyCornforth Tue 27-Oct-20 07:55:42

M0nica you've got the wrong end of the stick.
OP has said that she is not going anywhere.
Therefore, she doesn't need an excuse.
None the less, it would be a bit mad (to say the least) to say that you've got long Covid when you haven't. confused

SpringyChicken Tue 27-Oct-20 07:03:04

Ooh Monica. As my mum used to say, never tempt fate.