A plea for tact....

I also meant to say that whilst my circumstances are as above I really don’t want people who still have partners/live with family to feel bad about posting about their lives and happiness. It makes me feel better that some people at least are happy. Just because I have sad times doesn’t mean I want anyone else to feel bad. With much love to you all and I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and a healthy New Year.

Should we have a thread on here for people who might like a bit of virtual company? Maybe sharing memories of christmases you spent with your loved one if it’s not too painful.

It’s horrible isn’t it Christmas really seems to whack you in the face when your partner has died. This is my second Christmas without my husband and just after the anniversary of his death so I know exactly what you are feeling and all the others like us. I’m having an operation at beginning of January so I will be having 2 litres of milk and nothing else all day. I’m in Surrey so am now in tier 3 so it’s fun fun fun all the way.

My heart goes out to anyone who’s lost their partner, but especially this year.

It's the way of things, which does hurt, but what can any of us do about our personal situations?

Please do not think I begrudge anyone their family Christmas! - far from it. I love to hear about people being happy!

It just hurts a bit when people complain about spending Christmas with only their partner - I would rejoice to be doing just that very thing!

I'll be here Luckygirl. The " Day " won't be any different to how it's been since March for me so there'll be a running commentary during the day of what I'll be up to---or not.

The rules seem to be changing by the day so, even if people have made plans within those rules, it could all change.

I hope you do manage to pop over to see family on Christmas Day Luckygirl, even briefly but, if not, I think we could plan a Thanksgiving get together after this is all over, or at least after we feel safer after having the vaccination.

So sprouts on (if not on already, it's a bit late now).
Mine are going on this afternoon.

or even zoom - on Christmas Day
Good idea! Host can have my email anytime! Time zones no problem!
OoRoo

Well said MawB ?

I understand why many posters will feel sad around Christmas, bereavements, especially recent ones, AC living far away, family estrangements and general loneliness just some of the reasons.
However....this can’t be the reason to prevent posters saying what they will be doing on Festive threads.
Whatever happens in my own life (unknown for all of us) won’t make me begrudge happy times at Christmas for others.
There will be a virtual Christmas Party on GN on the day as there always is, which it may be nice to drop in on with comments throughout the day.

I have posted this elsewhere

I know I am not unique in this and there are many on GN who are similarly alone, bereaved or whose families live too far away to see them at Christmas
However it is like a tiny dart in my side each time I read “We are spending Christmas on our own” or “my “D/S will be dropping in “ or even “I am meeting up with my DGC for a walk/hot chocolate/Christmas picnic” or whatever

However I don’t begrudge you your Christmas -for many of you it will be a sad time and I honestly don’t think any of us expects the sort of Christmas we may have enjoyed in years gone by.
So sprouts on ( = sprout in a Christmas hat)

I have so many friends alone (divorce rather than death in most cases) and am mindful that I’m still fortunate to have DH around.

I also know that one day that will change and would certainly join in a link on Christmas Day Luckygirl x

Aww, bless you. Yes... I do count myself very blessed to have my husband around still. I think it may be just us two on Christmas Day, and am perfectly happy with that. The risks are just too great at the moment, meeting up with too many family members.
I often feel sad when I think one of us will die, and leave the other one. It comes to us all eventually, and that is a certainty. I embrace every day I have with all the people I love. It sounds like you have many lovely memories.
I’m sure you could start a thread for people on their own over the Christmas period. I know I would definitely contribute if it were me,
I wish you very well, and God bless ?

That is so true Luckygirl and I am very sorry you are spending your first Christmas without your DH alone.
I hope I haven't offended anyone with any comment I may have made.