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Empress Mon 19-Jul-21 10:01:41

I'm worried about being alone on Christmas. Last year I bought all of my own presents and wrapped them up. I bought a tree and a bunch of decorations. When I unwrapped everything I felt like a fool. ..I know its July lol, who knows if ill even be alive this Christmas. Perhaps I should just take it one day at a time.

MawBe Tue 20-Jul-21 12:02:05

kittylester

It used to be an unwritten rule that Christmas wasn't mentioned until after our street fair - well actually, it was my idea not an unwritten rule.

So, it's s best to wIt and see, imo.

In today’s heat I am defo wilting and seeing ???

123kitty Tue 20-Jul-21 11:57:37

Right-five months to go, start now trying to make this your day to look forward to. Forgo the tree and get yourself a beautiful bright indoor plant instead. If you must have baubles place them in a clear vase near a lamp where they can catch the light. What do you want (not need) as this is going to be your one present to yourself? A fabulous hair cut and new style, a dress you've admired, maybe a piece of jewellery, a pretty scarf - sorry these are my ideas, but I'm sure you will think of something you desire. Start the day with a glass of bubbles, you can purchase small bottles, even non-alcoholic wines if that's your preference. I suggest you don't listen to xmas music (heard enough by xmas day) or watch xmas films. Late lunch, what's your favourite meal? A walk, if you are able, followed by a little siesta maybe. An early light supper, a warm bath then straight into bed with a good book. Every time your mind strays to how lonely you feel about xmas, log on-line, search for your perfect present, make a playlist of music you will listen to. I'm sure gransnet will be up and running for you to read and contribute to friendly, supportive and often very humerous conversations on the day. Good luck.

Nannashirlz Tue 20-Jul-21 11:48:38

Hi I live to far from my kids and families. I’ve only being on my own last two Christmas’s, I plan what I’m going to watch on tv. I also buy myself a few presents, if you plan your day it helps or isn’t there nothing in your area. I was going to a Christmas lunch for single ppl. I did it the year before and it was great. Christmas lunch with others in similar positions. Ppl were of all ages, unfortunately last year it was cancelled due to covid. Go on google Christmas lunch in your area.or chat to your neighbors who are also alone ask if they want to meet together on the day.

ReadyMeals Tue 20-Jul-21 11:41:04

Well with the covid spike going up, I've restarted shielding myself again in spite of being double-vaccinated. If it's still high at xmas I think DH and I will choose not to see anyone. I might not get sick enough to go to hospital after being vaccinated, but from what I am hearing through others, it can still be very very unpleasant.

kittylester Tue 20-Jul-21 11:34:59

It's also an unwritten rule that my phone thinks it knows better than me.
*Wait and see

kittylester Tue 20-Jul-21 11:33:46

It used to be an unwritten rule that Christmas wasn't mentioned until after our street fair - well actually, it was my idea not an unwritten rule.

So, it's s best to wIt and see, imo.

EmilyHarburn Tue 20-Jul-21 11:30:02

Can you afford a hotel house party at Christmas?
www.innontheprom.co.uk/?offer=xmas-house-party

11unicorn Tue 20-Jul-21 11:29:15

It's early but I understand your feelings.
Maybe beginning of November we can have a post for everyone who is going to be on their own and we can make a "send a present" round.
I am happy to send you a present so you can unwrap a surprise. We can get a chain going and it's something to look forward to.

MawBe Tue 20-Jul-21 11:25:32

It is over Five Months away - why stress about it now?

I had a miserable Christmas on my own last year - Covid regs and distance made it impossible to be with two of my three daughters and their children, and the third- who I was due to stay with, had to cancel as eldest GS had tested positive.
Yes, I was miserable but it is only a day, the dog was happy to be at home with me and by Boxing Day it was over
We have a rule in our family - nobody mentions the “C” word before September (even October)
Who knows what will have happened here by December.
One day at a time is a good idea.

polnan Tue 20-Jul-21 11:20:30

oh gosh, I so try not to think about it.

but as I try to be a Christian, I often wonder how Christmas as most of us celebrate it now, has changed..

yes, I hate the thought of being alone any day of the year, I have to try and do one day at a time..the problem for me, as I see it, is that everywhere is closed down. no where to go to try to distract myself and not feel so alone

greenlady102 Tue 20-Jul-21 11:18:46

Empress

I'm worried about being alone on Christmas. Last year I bought all of my own presents and wrapped them up. I bought a tree and a bunch of decorations. When I unwrapped everything I felt like a fool. ..I know its July lol, who knows if ill even be alive this Christmas. Perhaps I should just take it one day at a time.

yes one day at a time is best. What do YOU want to do?

Scottiebear Tue 20-Jul-21 11:09:01

Have you considered a Turkey and tinsel trip? My mother in law went on one few years ago. There were other single ladies there.

Redhead56 Tue 20-Jul-21 11:05:58

I love Christmas I am watching silly Christmas films all the time. I agree don’t start worrying about Christmas now enjoy the summer.
When the build up to Christmas arrives go out if you are able enjoy the mood people love to shop. I like going to garden centres and see the Christmas displays. Some have cafes you can get a little Christmas dinner or lunch take in the Christmas atmosphere and enjoy it. When Christmas arrives maybe invite someone or not the choice is yours decorate the house but most of all enjoy it’s magical! ?

Shirlb Tue 20-Jul-21 11:00:41

It’s just another day to be honest nowadays ?

Theoddbird Tue 20-Jul-21 10:43:39

I gave spent last 3 Christmases alone. I cooked a special dinner etc and put a tree up. You will cope. Don't do the Christmas present thing though. Maybe just treat yourself to one special thing smile

inishowen Tue 20-Jul-21 10:41:33

Do you know another friend or neighbour who will be alone? Now is the time to ask and make a plan to have the day together. When I was just married in 1973 we lived abroad. My husband had to work Christmas day. The evening before we went shopping and got chatting to the cashier. Her husband was also working. Before I knew it I'd invited her to come to my flat on the big day. We had a laugh trying to cook our first Christmas dinner together.

Rufus2 Mon 19-Jul-21 13:20:13

I know its July lol
Empress You don't have to feel that way!
Here in Australia we have a celebration known as "Christmas in July, and right now, it could even be a white one!!
Of course it will be different for the majority for obvious reasons, but lockdown, self-isolation for me? No problem!
Cheers and Good Health.
,

sodapop Mon 19-Jul-21 12:56:38

That sound an ideal solution Flexagon helping others and getting exercise and companionship at the same time.
Depending on the Covid situation in December Empress maybe you could look at options like this.

Flexagon Mon 19-Jul-21 12:04:50

I've lived alone for twenty years and have no family. I don't like excessive consumerism and waste and long ago opted out of giving gifts and sending cards. Friends understand this.

On Christmas day, I usually volunteer in some capacity and/or go for a walk with Ramblers followed by a drink with the group in the pub. That's enough for me. I do receive invitations but don't want to be part of someone else's family party. Friends have also come to understand this. I don't mind admitting that the volunteering and walking came about as an excuse not to go to parties and then became a regular thing.

Having said all that, I do buy myself a gift. My late DH loved Christmas and all the razzamatazz so it's in memory of him. Nothing at all to feel foolish about.

Granmarderby10 Mon 19-Jul-21 11:44:27

Yes H1954 I experienced the same years ago. It was so relaxing and no dog to care for even. More tv to choose from now and better food options for one person.
But there is a world of difference to knowing that you will be alone on Christmas Day and being alone this Christmas Day and the next and the next. If you have memories of really good Christmases from childhood, or with a young family it can emphasise the “loss” even more.

aonk Mon 19-Jul-21 11:38:15

My family and I don’t like to mention Christmas at this early stage but we have come to a decision about this year. Providing all are well and subject to regular home testing we will be spending Christmas together maybe in small groups rather than everyone at once. We will do this no matter what rules are imposed on us. Having decided we won’t be mentioning it again for a very long time!

Witzend Mon 19-Jul-21 11:14:25

I do hope you won’t be feeling lonely this year, Empress, but
I don’t see why you should feel a fool for buying your own presents. If I were on my own I dare say I’d do the same. Not sure I’d bother wrapping them, since I find wrapping a bit of a chore, but I’d def. save them in their shop wrapping for the day - nice new pyjamas/dressing gown/socks/knickers/books/chocolates, are what I’d choose.

It may be only July still, but we’re 2/3 of the way through it, and I always find that certainly by August, the year positively whizzes by.

I never object to anyone mentioning Christmas however early. Those of us who make Christmassy things need to start early - which is why I was sewing up two knitted Wise Men back in June!
(Still several figures to go, including the donkey.).

BigBertha1 Mon 19-Jul-21 11:14:14

I just hope this is a better Christmas for everyone this year. last year was pretty miserable all round.

AGAA4 Mon 19-Jul-21 11:13:46

There are many on their own at Christmas but I wouldn't start thinking about it for a while yet.

H1954 Mon 19-Jul-21 10:52:22

She me years agoi spent five consecutive Christmas Days alone, and loved it! Get up when I wanted, eat what I wanted, watch tv when I wanted ( having sole choice of programs was awesome ) , listen to my music and not have to answer to anyone!
I totally understand that it can be a very lonely time but is it just one day after all.
Empress, have you considered volunteering for a charity or is that not possible for you? I know Covid has put the brakes on a lot of activities and events but is has always been my mindset that there's always someone worse off than me.