Gransnet forums

Christmas

.Christmas eve boxes? Really ?

(167 Posts)
Tusue Sat 11-Dec-21 13:41:39

I think a parents and grandparents are under enough pressure both emotionally and financially at Christmas but now everyone seems to be buying into this strange Christmas Eve box business?.
I honestly don’t get it !!!
I know some folk just buy matching pyjamas etc but the boxes I’ve seen are big and are meant to hold more than Jim jams.
I’m afraid I sound like the grinch but does anyone really need an extra present .
I remember going to bed on Christmas Eve just excited for what might be waiting for me the next day (dreamt of a tiny tears doll) now parents seem to be happily falling into another trap of buying more and more .
Sorry but I think its

Rileysnana Mon 13-Dec-21 12:52:51

We always had new PJ's a takeaway and treats for a Christmas film on Christmas Eve. When kids first left home I gave them a Santa sack with PJs chocolates hot chocolate and a few christmasy bits in. Haven't bothered this year they've got their own families now and are making their own traditions.

LisaP Mon 13-Dec-21 12:47:41

My kids always had new pj's and sweeties and the Snowman video to watch on Christmas Eve - they just didnt have a box to put it all in grin

GreyKnitter Mon 13-Dec-21 12:46:20

It’s just not her tradition that people have started - nothing wrong with moving with the times. My grandchildren have new pjs, a special drink and snack and a video to watch before they go to bed. Sounds harmless to me - I would have done all those things 40 years ago when mine were children - just without putting it all in a box!

GeoffreyE62 Mon 13-Dec-21 12:42:01

Whoever thought this extra money making scam up ??
Don't parents have enough pressure for Christmas Day without this on top !! Ridiculous IMO

RosesAreRed21 Mon 13-Dec-21 12:37:21

I don’t get them either just another way of getting people to spend yet more money

madmum38 Mon 13-Dec-21 12:33:43

When mine were young we always made a postbox out of a cardboard box, was down to them to decorate it.
They used to put in pictures they had drawn for each other and cards they had made.
I would put in a couple of small or silly presents, something that would calm them down.
We would open it just after tea and they would have an hour with their gift before bed, it always made them settle better, even though they are grown now we still have the box.
When I saw Christmas Eve boxes though I was stunned at the size and price of them. Think our postbox gave just as much happiness and cost next to nothing

Theoddbird Mon 13-Dec-21 12:17:01

Damn ridiculous. Christmas has lost its spirit. It is all about spending and pigging out on way too much food now. Sending you all Peace x

grandtanteJE65 Mon 13-Dec-21 12:15:55

In Denmark too the tradition is that Christmas Eve is the BIG DAY with both Christmas dinner and presents.

Most families with young children either eat the meal at about four in the afternoon instead of at their normal dinner time of six p.m. or thereabouts, or reverse the order of things and light the Christmas tree and have the present giving first.

My mother insisted when we were small that we went to bed for an hour or two in the afternoon - that way she had time for a rest herself, and could get dinner started. We, on the other hand, were allowed to stay up until the grown-ups went to bed around eleven.

Christmas Day is traditionally quiet, if the family are church goers with church in the morning and perhaps visitors for lunch in any case, or if there are elderly relations living alone or in care homes, you visit them for a while in the afternoon of Christmas Day.

But here too, present giving has escalated to ridiculous heights - it st arted years ago with Advent calendars containing small gifts - try finding 24 presents for three or four children and not spending a fortune on that!

Now those who can afford it are giving either many presents or very expensive ones.

The other side of the coin is people applying for "Christmas aid" (Julehjælp" to church-run charities etc. to cope with providing the traditional meal and perhaps a present or two.

Parents on small incomes or social security are forced either to ask for charity, or at least do all their present shopping in charity shops.

But no-one gives presents on the other days of Christmas, if they have already exchanged them on Christmas Eve. Santa Claus doesn't come with filled stockings either.

Alioop Mon 13-Dec-21 12:13:12

I only got a slap on my legs on Christmas Eve because I wouldn't stay in my bed any longer than 10 minutes waiting on Santa. Our PJs, chocolate, etc were presents that he left and hot chocolate was always in the cupboard to have every Sunday night.

Dempie55 Mon 13-Dec-21 12:03:12

Load of nonsense. Get to bed and wait for Christmas Morning. Bah.

Mamma7 Mon 13-Dec-21 11:58:12

We do it! It’s part of the ritual of putting a drink, mince pie for FC and a carrot for Rudolph by the fireplace. Wooden box with GC name on it - inside pjs, book or game and a couple of chocolate coins. Brings a lot of pleasure to all concerned and costs very little. What’s not to love? ?‍♀️ Don’t usually do mug and hot chocolate but might do this year ? not a lot of room in the box.

4allweknow Mon 13-Dec-21 11:55:19

In many countries presents are traditionally opened on Christmas Eve but with no presents on Christmas Day. Here we are being conned into the marketing's world in that a "little" box opened on 24th is becoming essential. Why even do people need matching pjs for the occasion? Christmas is already a huge expense for many without extending it another day.

jaylucy Mon 13-Dec-21 11:50:20

I used to belong to a Facebook group that used to highlight ways to save money and post up where bargains can be found - and got banned from it because I queried why the "admins" only recommended "bargains " from certain shops and not others and how much they got to do so !
The Christmas Eve box is another idea that has snuck in over the past few years and some of the boxes are the size of a small suitcase!
Members of the aforementioned group were almost having a competition displaying what they had purchased by posting photos,not only for the usual Christmas presents but also the contents of the Christmas Eve boxes! The group was supposed to have been aimed at those on a budget!
The tat that was in some had to be seen to be believed! I would have been surprised if most of it remained to be played with by Boxing Day !

Albangirl14 Mon 13-Dec-21 11:44:35

You could spread what you would have given over the Christmas Day to include Christmas Eve as often a bit much having all presents at once.

Cossy Mon 13-Dec-21 11:35:36

Kali2

Doesn't anyone have hot chocolate in their cupboard to make hot chocolate? As for Christmas PJs- you obviously do not have teenage grandchildren.

Well actually in our house the youngest person is 19 years old and the oldest is 66 and there are 6 of us, we all have Christmas PJ’s and fluffy socks on Christmas Eve and ALL wear the year round, we send our one and only much loved GS of 7 a Christmas Eve box, box is a recycled affair, this year there were PJs, fluffy socks, chocolate reindeer, Christmas named mug and hot choc stuff. We won’t see him now til 8th Jan when we have our second Xmas day with his family and our son and girlfriend who live 5 hours away We LOVE Christmas, don’t bankrupt ourselves and compared to many spend modestly and our greatest gift is spending time with each other and planning an annual break for four nights all 11 of us together somewhere in this country in 2022 it’s a big country house in Norfolk in Ictober half term ! Those of you, & I understand why, who don’t like Christmas for many reasons, don’t “bah humbug” those of us who do and honestly it’s no one business what other families choose to do, don’t judge !

Cossy Mon 13-Dec-21 11:23:54

We do it ! New Xmas PJs, fluffy socks, mug, hot choc sachet and small marshmallows ! New board game to play and we hang up stockings ! And then one or two pressies under the tree

Laurensnan Mon 13-Dec-21 11:22:32

Well I'm one who does it and loves it ?. My husband and I walk down the road to my grandchildren on Xmas Eve afternoon. I leave their boxes with new PJ's, Xmas bath bomb, Xmas themed colouring and puzzle books, a Xmas game, a Xmas story book and a Xmas craft to do. I add Xmas themed chocs or sweets too. Then they show me everything they have ready for Santa and I go home after half hour. It starts Xmas off wonderfully for me and it gives them things to occupy them. I walk home feeling happy and filled with their excitement. The Xmas boxes are refilled each year so are recycled ?.

sandelf Mon 13-Dec-21 11:21:38

It seems to be a way for marketeers to actively train children to want novelty and excitement every moment. Agree with commenters who say one lot is enough - where is the anticipation?

Paperbackwriter Mon 13-Dec-21 11:11:47

Is it Iceland (I think it is) where on Christmas Eve they give each other books then spend the evening relaxing with nice food and some reading. I like that idea. (Well, I suppose I would, wouldn't I?)

Hetty58 Mon 13-Dec-21 09:07:16

Tusue, I agree, we really don't need pressure to buy even more. In fact, I'm always trying to cut down, year by year, asking myself 'Do we really need this?' rather than repeating the traditional stuff.

My DIL is Lithuanian, so the big day is Christmas Eve in their house anyway, conveniently leaving Christmas Day for visiting relatives.

Here, we seem to have quietly dropped any celebration of Boxing Day, although we never did another big roast dinner (how do people manage to eat it?)

Socksandsocks01 Mon 13-Dec-21 08:41:56

New nightie and slippers were part of my Xmas presents which I.opened on Xmas day. Small stocking with only a few items. But we were still excited for Christmas morning

VictoryaW17 Mon 13-Dec-21 03:57:07

I think it does not matter whether you do presents in stockings or inboxes. Your children or grandchildren (or dogs grin) should be happy anyway.

Calistemon Sun 12-Dec-21 23:04:42

?

PS I'm making him a blanket with all the leftover balls of yarn. That'll have to do.

Marmight Sun 12-Dec-21 21:59:58

Don’t forget the dog! ?

Cabbie21 Sun 12-Dec-21 19:31:30

It is only the last couple of years that I have heard of Christmas Eve boxes. My daughter doesn't do them for her children. She still does stockings even though they are teenagers. As for the pyjamas, I usually get asked to give them pyjamas or dressing gowns or onesies for Christmas itself.
It seems to me like one more thing to organise, but if families like them and it makes for a peaceful evening, so be it.