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Entertaining the family at Christmas

(31 Posts)
Wishywashy Tue 28-Dec-21 09:53:43

You sound like the perfect guest Shropshire lass. I would have appreciated the offers, but not necessarily accepted. No one likes being taken for granted

Wishywashy Tue 28-Dec-21 09:51:25

Your comments are very positive for which I am grateful.

EllanVannin Tue 28-Dec-21 09:49:49

Get-togethers in my past didn't ever involve " who brings what ", we were just glad/ happy to see one another.

Shropshirelass Tue 28-Dec-21 09:42:00

I went to my sons for Christmas, took wine and Prosecco (I don’t drink), ground coffee, half of a cake I had made, home made chocolates and mince pies. I offered something towards the turkey but this was refused. I was told that I had been invited and wasn’t expected to contribute to the cost, but the offer was appreciated. The gifts I took had been very well thought out and not the usual generic gifts. What I took wasn’t expected but it was appreciated, I just couldn’t have gone empty handed.

Cabbie21 Tue 28-Dec-21 09:30:11

Nobody can tell you how to feel!
A bit of both, probably.
I would feel grateful that they had been able to come and stay, that I had enjoyed their company for a few days.
I would be glad they had not given me gifts I don't want or need ( another scented candle, anyone?).
I would feel relieved they hadn’t given me chocolates as I would only eat them and out on more weight.
I would struggle if they had brought food for my already full fridge and freezer.
On the other hand, it is good to be appreciative of a host’s efforts and expense, and to offer a contribution. I hope at least that they helped with meal preparation and washing up.h
Maybe they will send flowers when they get home? Will that help??

Wishywashy Tue 28-Dec-21 09:18:13

Can someone advise me please so that I can stop pondering over this. Had the family for for three days over Christmas. Two adults and two young grandchildren. They didn’t bring anything to contribute (a bottle of something or whatever). They are both in excellent jobs. For Christmas they gave us bottles of alcohol which looks very much like corporate gifts to them. My question is, should I be hurt or grateful?