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I’ve just decorated a plain fresh wreath and hung it on the front door, and…

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Witzend Mon 04-Dec-23 09:27:12

…I can absolutely guarantee that dh won’t notice it, or if he does, won’t make any comment. He’s not a miserable old git, far from it, he just doesn’t notice things, or doesn’t register them.

It’ll be the same (again) with the arrangement I make every year - greenery from the garden and a candle, in a copper bowl on the hall table opposite the front door, where you can’t possibly miss it.
(Haven’t done that yet, I need to polish the bowl first)

Anyone else’s dh the same?

Witzend Tue 05-Dec-23 10:22:53

Enid, 😂.

Well, dh didn’t notice the wreath when he finally came home, nor the little 🎄, but he certainly noticed the mince pies! And inhaled half a dozen before bedtime.

It might be a slight exaggeration, but I’ve been known to say that he wouldn’t notice if I went out topless with my nipples painted green.

Enid101 Tue 05-Dec-23 17:22:08

Witzend

*Enid*, 😂.

Well, dh didn’t notice the wreath when he finally came home, nor the little 🎄, but he certainly noticed the mince pies! And inhaled half a dozen before bedtime.

It might be a slight exaggeration, but I’ve been known to say that he wouldn’t notice if I went out topless with my nipples painted green.

He might not notice but plenty of others would grin

Blossoming Tue 05-Dec-23 17:25:07

LauraNorderr

Orlin is the same, just as well he’s not a fruit machine the time it takes for the penny to drop.

😂😂😂😂

jacqui67 Wed 06-Dec-23 11:40:55

Mine is exactly the same, but as others have said mince pies etc get swiped everytime he goes past, however he certainly notices when something isnt done.

Squiffy Wed 06-Dec-23 12:26:03

My DH has all the right compliments lined up in his head, but doesn’t necessarily get the timing right.

“Lovely haircut!”

“I haven’t been yet, it’s tomorrow!”

MillieBoris Wed 06-Dec-23 12:37:42

maddyone

No, mine not only notices but would take over if I let him is actively involved in Christmas preparations.

Mines the same- running round organising - absolutely exhausting- perhaps he hasn’t realised yet that I’m not a fan of Christmas??!!

NannaFirework Wed 06-Dec-23 13:13:28

Mine just moans the whole time about any joyful Christmas item, expense, flowers, tree, cards !
…he is lovely occassionally

TanaMa Wed 06-Dec-23 13:38:25

Living alone as I have done since losing my husband many years ago, I don't decorate at all. When OH was alive he just loved to do the decorating as he had missed being at home a lot when he was younger. He always made a super job of it, but always on Christmas Eve, so everything was part of the 'magic' of Christmas for the children when they csme down to see uf Santa had been.

Rumbabba Wed 06-Dec-23 14:45:23

I have the greatest hubby ever, but does he notice things, absolutely NOT! You could put him in front of an identity parade and he wouldn’t have a clue.
Another example… one day when I knew we were going to be in for the day , I made up one side of my face only, ie. eyebrows, eyeshadow, mascara, and one half of my lipstick. Did he notice, despite sitting opposite me on several occasions throughout the day, NO!!🤣🤣 But I wouldn’t change him for the world.

Gundy Wed 06-Dec-23 16:52:18

Many men are totally clueless and thoughtless (but not all, I know)…
However they are first to notice some of the stupidest and wrong things 🙄😂 Oh yeah…

grannyactivist Wed 06-Dec-23 17:00:29

My husband is very kind, generous, thoughtful - and rarely comments if I make changes to my hair, clothes, or household. In recent months he has tried very hard to ‘notice’ these things AND make a comment, but I can see the effort it takes. 😂

Lucyd Wed 06-Dec-23 18:40:46

My lovely late husband would definitely have noticed and commented favourably. He used to love decorating the tree. He would arrive home early (he worked away from home), put up the tree, put the lights on it and leave a note to the children saying he was the Christmas fairy but was so busy he hadn't been able to finish the tree and could they do it? He would they drive off and wait in a lay by till I arrived home with the children. They, of course, totally believed the letter and when he turned up shortly afterwards we would finish off the decorating as a family. Lovely memories especially as I am missing him so much.

Koalama Thu 07-Dec-23 08:00:10

Oh dear, that's me I'm really un observant, I was once at a toddler group (I worked with children) it was my 50th birthday, I popped to the loo, when I came back I sat in the chair I was sitting in before, then everyone starting singing happy birthday to me, and as I looked around they had decorated my chair and area with balloons and party things, and I'd not noticed a thing 🙈 as I look back at it, I can't believe I didn't notice, I must have been so focused on whatever, that i just didn't see it, and unfortunately I'm still the same now 🙈

Carenza123 Tue 12-Dec-23 07:34:12

Mine husband doesn’t notice much. I have cut down on my usual decorations this year. Feeling sad as this year I feel the granddaughters have grown out of the joy of Christmas - preferring money to actual presents, relations having mental health issues. I am responsible for most everything so have decided to not have outside lights year. Sounds ‘bah humbug’ but that’s how it is.

goose1964 Wed 13-Dec-23 12:57:59

My DH is in charge of decorating. I'm food and clearing up

Tizliz Wed 13-Dec-23 14:35:06

LauraNorderr

Orlin is the same, just as well he’s not a fruit machine the time it takes for the penny to drop.

Love this, I have a partner like that.