Seriously unhappy at Santa failure

I really wouldn’t mind anymore if I didn’t get any gifts from my husband. After nearly 50 years together all I need or want is him to be there.

I do sympathise as, for the past 20 years since my husband had a stroke, gift-buying has been more or less beyond him. But things change as we get older, and when we've been with the same spouse for donkeys' years it's hard to be original. I too have faced the question, "What do you want?" - and, one memorable time, "Buy whatever you'd like and I'll pay for it." I refused both options! We're now at a stage where we've agreed not to buy each other Christmas gifts at all, in order to avoid the very situation you describe. That's hard to accept, as I'd love to continue buying him things that I know he'd like. But there it is. In the grand scheme of things, some stuff is fundamentally important in a marriage, whereas other stuff is really not. The strongest reeds are the ones which bend with the flow....

Even if I told my husband and children I wanted nothing for Xmas, nothing is definitely NOT what I’d get!

I feel sad for the OP!

All I ever ask for is evidence of thought. DH is quite good at presents really. If he remembers 😬

Actually , Quizzer said ‘ Nothing in particular’. A long way from ‘Nothing at all’. He could have, and should have bought her something. I would have been upset.

Jaxjacky

You said nothing when asked? You know he needs direction, that’s how he is, you could’ve written a simple, but specific wish list, voucher for xxx, yy toiletries, zzchocolates.

He’s been her husband long enough that they have married adult sons.

He knows better. He just didn’t feel like thinking.

Let’s stop blaming women for men choosing to be incompetent.

You said nothing when asked? You know he needs direction, that’s how he is, you could’ve written a simple, but specific wish list, voucher for xxx, yy toiletries, zzchocolates.

Of course you're not wrong and there was no need for you to be embarrassed, it's his shame not yours.