Should I say don’t come ?

To see the beginning of this message (if you are still awake!), please go to 12.08.58.
Thanks, and apologies!

I’m sorry I find your last sentence quite hurtful. You don’t know how much I struggle with mental health

Sorry, for some reason, the first part of my message disappeared.
Basically, it said that when my late husband and I were young, we were expected to go to his our mothers for Christmas Day itself, and would sulk if we didn’t comply. We tried having both sets of parents at ours but my dad and my husband’s mum hated one another so that was a no-no.
When our older daughter got married, Cont’d……..

Yes always wanted them to have the best time I’m not bothered about me. Thankyou

Mmm, tricky one alright. How about some sort of compromise. Christmas with the gf, another lovely event/ time at a later date?
No need to stress about cooking a meal then.

I get what you are saying and if I were you I would tell him to spend Christmas with his gf on the understanding that they come to you one weekend afterwards, doesn’t have to be a special occasion, and you don’t have to eat in, look at eating out somewhere in your budget.
So much hoohah over Christmas, so many families fall out. Am so glad you taking such a mature attitude towards this

Cont’d
I encouraged them to do whatever they wanted on their first Christmas as a couple and they chose to have the day at their flat together, but were happy to come to us on Boxing Day, which we treated as Christmas Day, with presents, Christmas dinner etc. It worked well because everyone was happy to be doing their own thing.
As nearly all our family were shift workers, getting us all together on the same day was a nightmare. One year, we moved Christmas Day to 7th January because that was the day that most of us were free! It didn’t make any difference to the enjoyment. In fact, my husband and I enjoyed our first ever Christmas Day with just the two of us in 23 years because of that!
Flexibility and not being selfish is the key. As you get older, (I’m 80), it’s lovely to be invited to the family for Christmas Day, and I (on my own now) always buy the meat for the meal, turkey, gammon etc.
What I wouldn’t really like is Christmas dinner in a restaurant! That said, if that’s what the family wanted, I would go along with it quite happily. Once you get to my age, it’s not your choice any more. The younger ones are making their own traditions and that’s great. I wish my mother and mother-in-law had been the same with us and had let us make ours!

Hi I work full time from home. I was looking for advice on whether I should tell my Son to his gf family for Christmas rather than spend it apart from her

Sorry, struggling to follow this. Has the anxiety been recent after you finished work?

I would suggest that you stop worrying about 24 hours in December and try to have an OK time now.