Why do people you never hear from send Christmas cards

Oh goodness, calendargirl, I do exactly the same with an ex colleague who i really like. I am going to do it this year!

There are two people, old friends, I exchange cards with that I haven’t seen for years. We summarise our news in Christmas and birthday cards, don’t expect to meet for many reasons but do care about each other. There were half a dozen acquaintances who sent cards, I looked and thought who on earth is that before the light dawned. I stopped sending them cards, gradually theirs petered out. Both approaches feel right.

keepingquiet

I was told by an old work colleague who still insists on sending a birthday and Christmas card, that I was on her 'list.'

I was a bit offended by this- I think I'm worth more than just being on a 'list.' Maybe an occasional phone call? An invitation to a meet-up? No, just a list.

People are very strange...

It means she still thinks of you.
Positively, not negatively or else you'd be off her list.

I still think of people although we never see them now.

Slimswim

I know there’s another thread regarding Christmas cards but my question is, why do people you never hear from send Christmas cards? I ask the question because someone I know sent one but how do they know if we are both still alive as we never hear from them.

But a. they presumably send you one every year? So that is "hearing from them" albeit not that often.

and b. you do not send them one back?

Good for you Calendargirl.

An old work colleague and friend of mine, we always send each other Christmas cards, and always write in them ‘We must meet up for coffee sometime’. We only live about 6 miles from each other.

But we never do.

But this year, I decided to get on and do it!

We are meeting up for coffee, cake and a good catch up tomorrow.

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It irritates me because all they say is love from X and Y. I received a card today, haven't heard from them for years and it was giving me a change of address. It would have been good to know why they moved.

I haven't decided yet whether to send them a card.

We always used to get a card and a letter from some friends abroad. We haven't received anything for the last two years, so we assume they have died. They came to see us about twenty years ago and neither of them was in good health even then.

Christmas and birthday cards are nice to receive .
It's nice not to be forgotten .

But I'm conscious of people ,who know of my close proximity to London and are keeping me as a contact ,because it's useful if they feel like a stay !

I was told by an old work colleague who still insists on sending a birthday and Christmas card, that I was on her 'list.'

I was a bit offended by this- I think I'm worth more than just being on a 'list.' Maybe an occasional phone call? An invitation to a meet-up? No, just a list.

People are very strange...

That's how they find out. If they get no return card within a couple of of years, assume deceased or parked in a home. I have people who email me every couple of years to check if I am still around.

I sometimes put a return address in a card to elderly (compared to me) friends, just in case.