If the younger generation have Mummy Porn.....

I think I can safely speak for us all when I say that we're of an age where we can look back on our lives and see many occasions when we've said or done something and felt genuine regret after the fact .. yes I'm certain we've all done that .. the point is that we do acknowledge a lapse in judgement, we do show remorse, and we look for understanding and compassion from our peers .. so let's have no finger-pointing .. no names, no pack drill .. I just wish to say that I can see that errors have been made, but also that sincere remorse has been shown, and I for one am mature enough to show empathy and consideration to all parties, with the hope that no-one exits Gransnet under a cloud .. and certainly not on a permenent basis .. everyone needs to look in the mirror from time to time and realise that for heaven's sake we're all human.

Well said, snapshot.

Don't know about others , but when I make a mistake my mind wants to go over and over it. i think it is a natural tendency to want to learn from something embarrassing so as to avoid future transgressions.
However I have also learned that the downside of this is a tendency to keep reliving something you regret or wish never happened.
I had a "bad morning" the other day. I decided not to recount the details to other people or myself. Just not to be such an idiot again. It was much better than re-running it umpteen times.
Do't go away either of you. it is just embarrassment, that's all. Let it go. Just remember this is a public forum. That's all.

Would it not be a good idea to cease to contribute to this thread and let the subject lapse? I'll say no more.

Agreed!

Agreed.

I t would be a shame for anyone who wished to offer support for all those involved though would it not?

I am deeply saddened to learn that Nellie and gramps are no longer with us. Thanks snapshot for your wise input. I will offer my apologies herewith if I have been instrumental in causing upset to others.

Soop! Don't be dafter than you are! I agree with greatnan and hope that *gramps andnellie will return. They will both be missed .
I can't be zany on my own!

jeni you've brought a to my silly face.

Thank you CeliaGransnet for removing the offensive posts. If I'm allowed to continue my membership .I will not let this "Club"down again.

Thank you all, for the undeserved kindness shown to me
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Soop, you have nothing to be remorseful over. You are a lovely Lady who has no need to feel ashamed.!

Snapshot, Thank you for your wise words and consideration. You have my deepest respect Sir!

Nellie, If you are reading this, please let your friends know that you are ok!! They are truly concerned for you!

Spoken like a true gentleman, gramps. I am very fond of you. I'm also extremely fond of dear Nellie.

GRAMPS

Well said sir.

Nice to see you back, come on Nellie, just say hi to everyone, please.

Please!

Please come back, nellie - no one blames you, we all got carried away!
GN won't be the same without you.

Wellcome back!
Now where is that little baggage nellie?

Nellie - do come back. Please!

Oh dear; what's happened? I haven't been reading this thread much [partly because I was a bit overwhelmed by how funny it was and how incapable I was of thinking up anything so amusing] but, when I did look at it the other day I laughed so much that I decided to save it till I had enough time to read it all through properly.

crimson, the funny stuff got a little out of hand and went 'funny' in an unacceptable way. There was a reference to children which should never have appeared on such a thread. Butternut, quite rightly, pointed this out and those involved (or who thought they were involved) were mortified, showing that they had not meant to be so unwise and were very sorry for it.

Like everyone else who has said so, I hope Nellie will come back, but I also think it's important not to forget that Butternut did the right thing but is feeling awful because of the consequences. Please, everyone, support her too.

Absolutely; sounds as if Butternut definately did the right thing. The most important thing about a good forum is good moderating, something that we're all responsible for. Also agree that Nellie needs to come back. Oh dear .

BUTTERNUT,
Of course you did the right, and only proper thing to do!
Have no feelings of doubt about that!!

If somebody had "pulled the plug" earlier, they would also share feelings of indecision and doubt.

You acted correctly and, THANK YOU!

Gramps.

Butternut you absolutely did the right thing!

I felt about a week or so ago that the thread had more or less run its course and I imagined it would fade away. I opened the thread today for the first time in several days and was surprised to find deleted messages. It was only as I read further that I learned why they had been deleted.

I was going to pm you to say I wholeheartedly agreed with your objections and would have responded exactly the same as you did. Bags very sensible post though, has prompted me to show my support openly.

Butternut I'm sure we all support your actions, you did the right thing.

I wish there was something we could do to get nellie back as I'm sure she feels upset even though she was not to blame for anything but making us all laugh.

Of course we support Butternut - I felt bad because I should have made my views on the post in question clear at the time as well as not making an ill-considered one of my own, and Butter was quite right to say what she did.