Denture and a date - Help!

Good luck Meggy x

Thanks Gilly.... yes I think much harder as we get older. Perhaps because we know what we want more. Sadly the denture has knocked my confidence for six.

Good luck for tonight! Hope you have a lovely time, please keep us all posted! You know we are all thinking of you. I am sure this dating game gets harder as we get older. I think with age, we must become more choosey - and why not? He is probably more nervous than you! Take care, keep safe - and have a great time! xx

I'm so glad I posted this because at least I have somewhere wonderful people here who give such great advice - thank you all ! I will be sure to update how it goes !

Date night , Deni !
I looked at your photo - you're absolutely gorgeous - you're going to get that snog ! He's a lucky man ! Good luck for tonight .

Widowed just over two years, married for many years before, I've now met a lovely man who clearly has lots of kissing in mind. Before reading this thread I admit my dentures hadn't worried me that much; but now they do!

I've recently started internet dating, widowed just over two years ago. Having kissed no other man for around fifty years, I'm a wee shade nervous. Now, I've met a man who clearly has lots of kissing in mind - must admit my plate hadn't worried me one bit - till now!!

The fact that even though only at the chatting stage he has told you he is superficial would be far more of a worry than a partial denture to me
Hope he’s not
Best wishes

Discussing your dentures or anything similar on a first date comes into the too much information category and probably a bit of a passion killer. Enjoy the date, keep things light and pleasant. It's just a first date not an international treaty. ?

Someone I know, who had full upper and lower dentures kept them a secret for years.
Her fixodent was kept in the thumb of a mitten, which was hidden under a loose floorboard beneath her bedside cabinet.
And if she recognises this, I'm dead!

Yes perhaps I feel his expectations are high. Superficial is what he said and it's a poor trait of his. I might not feel too confident with that in mind - we will see. Think of me tomorrow evening!

Well I had a partial.denture with just one tooth when I met my husband nore than 40 years ago -and he never noticed!! He found out later of course but it was years before I had it replaced by a bridge. Never used any fixodent or similar - just no need!

Actually grandtanteJE65 I took this comment about superficiality to be more of an admission by him that appearances are very important to him.

Yes, gmelon - glandular fever was known as ‘the kissing disease’ !

I don’t think your anxiety is just about the dentures here Denil963. He has already admitted he is a little superficial. You are aware his expectations are high. Enough to make anyone a little nervous - own teeth or not!

Now, if it gets a LOT more intimate, ladies sans teeth are VERY popular!

Thank you all so so much. I will update if it goes as far as kissing ..... mine is an upper plate holding 3 teeth and I don't usually use fixodent as it's pretty secure but maybe I will. I'm so so nervous!

DH has a partial denture and already had it when I met him, 36 years ago. He mentioned it early on, I wasn't bothered by this, and I can honestly say I've never noticed it when kissing. (And there's still a lot of kissing..... )

Prolonged kissing of a new partner can cause a sore throat.
Something to do with unfamiliar bacteria from his/her mouth.
Don't know anything about teeth though. Sorry.

Sarahellenwhitney !! That made me laugh! Was a singular tooth on what looked like a Lakeland product for crimping pies. As for not taking it out, as the denture was in preparation for an implant I had to leave it out overnight to allow the gum/bone to rebuild.

Marieeliz I have sent you a p.m.

Please do stop worrying about your dentures! I have my own teeth DH has a partial upper plate and a full lower plate and I can honestly say it has not made any difference.

At first, last year when he first got them, he was naturally a little self-concious, but it honestly makes no difference to me whether he has them in or out of his mouth when we are kissing.

If anyone is so superficial that your dentures worry him, then I would take it as a good indication that you might enjoy his company as a friend, but not as anything more than that.

If you like him, you could ask him what he meant by calling himself superficial. To me it sounds as if he is deliberately putting himself down - perhaps a comment from an ex?

Maybe he has dentures or a wooden leg he hadn’t told you about. Just enjoy your time with him and don’t worry

Go for it Denil963 - just make sure you've used a suitable adhesive. I've had dentures for a couple of years now and forget all about them thanks to Fixodent - and noone's even noticed as they're not 'pearly' but 'normal' looking. Don't worry about it - just have fun.

Marieeluz, I was told by my horrible horrible dentist that because I have Osteoporosis, there was no way anyone would be prepared to do implants for me. I insisted he refer me anyway to a private practice that did this work for them and the reaction was very different! They were more than happy to perform the procedure but I did need to have a bone implant first. After having all the work done I transferred to the private practice for the rest of my dental needs as they were so positive whereas he had been negative and on a few occasions downright nasty. They were quite reluctant for me to start using them, but I did say that if any comments were made I would be more than happy to explain exactly why I was not happy with the original practice. All this was over 4 years ago now, when we had first moved to this area and had been my very first negative experience with a dentist - a very big shock to the system.. I am more than happy with things these days and do recommend my dentist willingly. Yes it is expensive, but to me worth every penny, I don’t drink or smoke and would happily do without a lot of things to pay for my teeth.