Self conscious about body with husband.

Sandwichnan, that's the kind of ex husband I had, even as a young woman I was always made to feel not quite good enough. You are much better on your own

Just assume that your partner’s eyesight isn’t too good!

I believe nature has her compensations as we age. I find it hard to remember the slights I felt so hard when I was younger.
I think DH accepts me as I am doesn't have much choice
I still take my glasses off when I look in the mirror however, for fear of getting a shock and seeing my mum who's been decd 10 years.

When I used to moan about being fat (and I am!) my husband used to say he liked plenty to grab hold of, lol!

Just think how many young people have saggy, pot belly bodies and they don't have age as an excuse. Don't worry about it, just have laugh together about getting older.

There’s no need to try and hide your body from your DH as men rarely notice changes anyway IMHO ?
As sandelf says though, if you are self conscious wear a nice slip or invest in prettier lingerie ( always gives you a lift in my experience.)

I know what you mean about veins wobbly belly, my boobs are the only thing I’m happy with but does it really matter, I have cellulite too, me and my dh are overweight but we honestly don’t worry about showing our bodies off nobody else is going to see our bodies. We actually laugh at our wobbly bits, don’t take ourselves seriously at all. I’m not saying we wouldn’t like to turn the clock back and have the bodies we had when younger, who wouldn’t but this is us now

Thank you everyone . For me it is a lovely memory as well

We all age and our bodies change. We need to be happy in our own skins. I am happy for my other half to see me without my kit on and my other half is happy the other way round. Fair enough, we don't look the same as when we met, but we celebrate 50 years of wedded bliss, this year, so what does it matter. As long as you still love each other, seeing each other naked, sex etc., doesn't matter. Get on with life and enjoy what's left of it. It fizzles out soon enough.

Dragingly46 your lovely husband does not need to ho to Specsavers because I am sure he is telling the truth. I said much the same as you to my DH and his reply was none of that was important because all that mattered was that he still had me with him.

It took me 20 years to persuade my OH not to buy me size 10 undies and nightwear as presents any more. In his mind I am still the teenager he met in the 60s!

I just feel lucky and privileged to still be here regardless of the wrinkly bits and bobs!

What I think is unfair is that men don't get cellulite! My DH's body is almost the same as when he was young. He doesn't have any varicose veins either. Lucky b****r!

I look around at so many younger people, a lot of them very overweight, wearing skimpy and tight fitting clothing. They don't seem to mind showing off their wobbly bellies, bingo wings and thunder thighs.
Even though I'm not particularly big I can't bring myself to wear a sleeveless top, let alone anything revealing.

Sadly, my husband has for many years not seen me naked. His opinion isn't very nice. We haven't slept together for years as he says he doesn't find me attractive. His loss!!

I think that being skinny makes you look older than you are, when you get older...IYSWIM.
My OH is 23 years younger than I but if he didn't like what he sees, (and he doesn't need specs) he could easily get someone 40 years + younger.
I think it's a win for positivity and personality, over a few extra pounds and being relentless and boring about diets, exercise and being a narky, nagging bitch.
IMO it's boring to have a partner who is needy and needs their self confidence boosting every five minutes and who wears so much make-up that the real person is never seen.
Some men don't seem that bothered about moobs, a paunch, hairy back/ears, overgrown eyebrows or non-existent/saggy bums and nor do the women married to men who fit that description.

@TerryM I was very touched by your story!

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Don’t worry so much about it. I wish I was 63. just wait till you’re 73!. It’s low lights and no lights for me. Having 2 bathrooms does help. ☺️

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I know exactly how you feel. Recently (January) I had a hysterectomy and he had to help me with most things. OMG He saw it all and he didn’t flinch once. Don’t worry you are still a beautiful woman.

It's totally normal to feel self-conscious, but remember, your husband loves you for who you are. Embrace your body's changes with confidence; intimacy is about connection, not looks. Talking openly with him can help rekindle your bond.

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