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We share very few interests so it is always nice if we do something together.

I LOVE it when my OH gets involved in “my” stuff. He has a go at yoga; result hilarious. He helps in the garden, which means all the heavy, horrid jobs get done. He cleans ineptly but with enthusiasm. Best of all, he now does all the shopping and cooking - and he loves it.

We share most things,

we have our own interests but I would always encourage him if he ever took an interest in anything that I was doing

He usually does his own thing. If he does any I leave it to him as I don’t think we can work together. Sometimes it’s good when he does things which I can’t, won’t and doesn’t have the patience to do. The thing we can do together is may be helping with some gardening. I get frustrated when it’s not been my way or vice versa.

I try and encourage my Husband to get involved in the same things as me, so I would be pleased.

He can only get involved with the things I want him to get involved with!

Last time that happened He took over! !!!

We share most things together as we have very similar likes and dislikes

I have converted the smallest bedroom from a dumping ground to a “craft room” . It has excellent light, a fabulous heater if required, a large table and comfy chair.
As he is working from home I have lease it to him. It’s working very well and he is our “ breadwinner” and this looks like a permanent arrangement I’ve ceded it to him but woe betide him if he refers to MY ROOM as “the office”. I’ve decided to allow it to be called “the studio”.

I’m fine with it as long as he doesn’t start charging the way I do things. Then that’s a different story.

I enjoy my partner getting involved in something that I consider to be mine. I feel as though he gives a different perspective, which is often beneficial and the results are often better, though I probably wouldn't admit that to him.

Sometimes I enjoy sharing experiences but if I’m learning something I must ask to allow me to do it by myself so as not to be reliable.

I like it when we share activities together, but also feel independant activities give us conversation together.

I'm quite lucky as we share everything, we do have certain jobs that are 'his' and 'mine' but they are things the other doesn't like doing so we are quite happy to keep them to ourselves

I let him be involved I don’t mind

I do my best to be tolerant, but I would really prefer it if my husband didn’t join in when I am cooking. I’m a control freak I know, but I try not to show my irritation!

I try to stay composed and include him where possible but after 32 years he knows when to let me get on with whatever I’m doing and that I will ask for help if I need it!!

I don’t mind, we have been together 31 years, like a pair of old socks lol ?

I think it would depend on what his intentions were. If he wanted to share in my delight in a hobby with me every now and then, then great! However, I had a partner years ago who wanted to come to my book club with me because it was 50%male (unusual I know) and he said he was worried I might run off with one of them. Not interested in reading any of the books (I'd have loved discussing those with him)...just about control and his insecurities. So - if it's about wanting to share occasionally - absolutely, but if it's about insecurities and control - absolutely not. He's an ex for a reason..

It might be a little different for me then others because my partner and i have not been together very long. I value my independance greatly due to past controlling relationships. He finds it very difficult to understand why certain parts of my life are mine alone and i get irritable when he tries to involve himself in them. This will probably change over time and he is trying very hard to be understanding.

I walk away as he thinks he can always do it better or tells me I am not doing it right, grrrrrrr!

I'd have no issue at all but I'd need to brace myself for him quickly declaring himself an expert at whatever it may be..!

I always welcome his help

he loses

My partner only gets involved in something only I am interested when I ask him to. Which is when I need help with a problem or dilemma. He can give me clarity and conclusion.