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Husband doesn't take risk to me seriously!

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Daisy743 Sat 21-Mar-20 19:36:45

My husband doesn't seem to take the risk from Coronovirus to us seriously enough. I have asthma and it's very bad at the moment. I had a fall 4 weeks ago and injured my chest, after 2 weeks I went to the gp twice and was 'fobbed off' with ibuprofen gel. Eventually I went to Urgent care and had an x-ray and found a cracked rib and inflammation around it. The hospital doctor gave me steroids for a week to strengthen my lungs. I still am quite wheezy and very worried. Up until today my husband hasn't really registered that I am vulnerable and only last week stopped going into London (Public transport) when everyone else was told to work at home. He normally works at home 3 days a week and wouldn't ask to stay home before as 'everyone will ask!'. I managed to persuade him to go food shopping today and he came in and I had to remind him to wash his hands!! He doesn't think we're going to get it, and that all the advice doesn't affect us! How do I get him to realise I'm quite vulnerable, he would be OK, he's a very fit 55 year old! I'm only 53 but I have several underlying conditions. At least we have these lovely fur babies to take for walks, and that keeps me sane at this unprescedented time.

Fran3669 Sat 21-Mar-20 19:47:08

Daisy743 I really feel for you as my husband is doing most things but still not taking it that seriously either. I’m having to prompt him to wash his hands and he’s been to the barbers today where he said there were no additional precautions taken by staff or customers.

I have already told him that if he shows ANY symptoms he’ll be banished to the spare bedroom and I’ve argued that he shouldn’t be seeing his 70+ parents who both have underlying health issues but he has completely ignored me, seeing his father two days ago and he plans on visiting his mother tomorrow.

I can’t, and won’t, visit my parents as it wouldn’t be fair and it goes against all the advice being given.

I have exercise induced asthma so I don’t consider myself at risk, however, I do get called in for the flu jab; I would prefer not to catch this virus as my asthma does worsen when I’m ill.

I’m sorry I have no proper advice I can give but at least we can have a ‘rant’ about our partners on here.

These are for you and I hope you stay safe flowers x

welbeck Sat 21-Mar-20 19:47:36

can you try to keep away from him in the house, depending on how big it is, do you have 2 loos.
remind everyone to put the lid down before flushing, i read something yesterday about the virus remaining in faeces for many days after symptoms have subsided, and toilets create aerosol effect which spreads the virus in droplets.
i think you have to take whatever measure you can to keep yourself as safe as poss. wipe everything, shopping, handles.
there are many phone-ins on radio, could you ring one when he is there and ask the expert to explain to him.

phoenix Sat 21-Mar-20 19:48:30

Hello Daisy

I'm 61 with COPD, fortunately my DH seems to be taking every step to keep the household "safe".He has been able to work from home, he did run when a work colleague was sent home with a cough and high temperature, and his work area was wiped down with spray by someone wearing gloves!

Must admit, we haven't actually gone as far as baking the newspapers!

By "fur babies" I take it you mean pet dogs?

Daisy743 Sat 21-Mar-20 19:56:36

Thanks, yes it was a sort of rant. But knowing I'm not alone helps too. Love and hugs back to you. [flower]

Daisy743 Sat 21-Mar-20 19:59:53

Thank you Phoenix, some good advice there. [thankyou]

Lilygoodwin Sun 22-Mar-20 08:02:54

I have had a transplant so am in the underlying condition group. I haven’t been out and my husband is working from home. However, he likes to keep fit and does very long walks and catches a train, albeit on a Sunday so hardly anyone on it. Am I right to be upset? I can’t bear to start a row as it won’t help.

Oopsadaisy3 Sun 22-Mar-20 09:11:18

Lilygoodwin I think you are in the high risk group and you will soon get a letter from the NHS telling you in no uncertain terms that you have to be very careful.
Next time he insists on going on a train, lock him out, leave a suitcase on the doorstep and let him go and stay somewhere else.
He could literally kill you!

Daisymae Sun 22-Mar-20 13:45:32

You could point out to him that the majority of the patients in ICU are male. That may focus his attention.

Daisy743 Mon 23-Mar-20 17:09:54

Thank you, I think he's finally got the message. I did ask him to get a suitcase down - he said where was I going and I said, I'm not going anywhere, but if you risk it again you're out! He's been watching the news and overheard my conversation with our GP who phoned me to give me advice! Thanks for all of your help ladies, it really helps to have someone who cares to talk with on here. Stay safe ladies, xxx

Oopsadaisy3 Mon 23-Mar-20 19:32:43

Well done Daisy .