husbands working from home

But there is such a thing as thoughtfulness and awareness of the feelings of others.

But with respect that assumes that posters are aware of everyone’s history doesn’t it? I’m fairly new to here and am certainly not aware of the marital status of other posters, whether they’ve lost a husband or a child, or suffered DV or been the subject of any other of the thousands of misfortunes that may befall us through life.

While not wishing to upset/offend there may be times when this happens with no malice or intent. I would echo others though that if a thread title is clear and you know it is likely to upset you then the best course of action is to not enter the thread. It seems unfair to open the thread anyway and then go on to berate others for being thoughtless when you have walked in with your eyes open.

Oh that's terribly selfish of him

A good hearted winge is healthy from time to time! DH is very meticulous in all his thoughts making it hard for him to just cool his jets from time to time. I have to be honest, sheltering did not cause this. He probably told the doctor that delivered him how to do it. I just make sure to keep a sense of self as often as possible and love him for the good parts.

I think, MawB, that before entreating others to be kind, you should realise that criticising posters who just want to lightheartedly have a justified whinge about their husbands definitely comes under the umbrella of not kind. We are all equal members of this group and if we want to post about anything, whether or not it’s of any interest to you, it’s not up to you to police us!

But MawB, your “turning up at the Invictus Games moaning about bunions” analogy would only work if the OP had posted this in the Bereavement section. It’s in Coronavirus, and while sadly Coronavirus will take a heavy toll, it hasn’t had time yet to cull enough husbands to make this an insensitive thread, - given it’s about minor irritations rather than homicidal intentions.
Finally she started her own thread, she didn’t barge into someone else’s thread about the loss of their husband to talk about how annoying it is that hers wants the heat turned up.

My husband is high risk - and has been told by the NHS to stay at home for 12 weeks, not even going out for exercise! This doesn't affect us as much as some - we have been together for more than 30 years and love spending time together, we have even worked together a couple of times. Yes my husband is being slightly irritating, but he suffers with depression and anxiety, amongst other things, and his COPD and heart condition means he has to self isolate - and so do I as we live in a small 1 bed flat. All sympathies to those who no longer have their loved ones around - however this is not a male/female issue, Grandad you are not helping!!!

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I am proud that our company is working in close support of the transport industry. That industry in this time of unprecedented crisis has food distribution centre employees working very long hours with very many not having a full rest day in over two weeks.

That industry also has HGV drivers on food distribution to supermarkets working sixteen-hour days under the emergency legislation and within those hours finding that all the service areas have closed the food outlets and toilets when they stop for rest. They are then finding the owners of those service areas having deserted the sites have left them portaloo toilets in the parking areas with no running water to even wash their hands.

Then we have another working sector in Britain at this time of crisis sat on their backsides at home on full ttaxpayer-funded salaries with little real work but telling us how essential they are to Britain at this time.

What a joke that sector is.

Ooh-er! Kettle -Pot- Black?

trisher Quote[ Grandad1943 has given up on the Schools thread since I posted the advice to parents about home schooling!] End Quote

trisher, I can reliably inform you that the day I give up on any matter due to a comment made by yourself will never come about. ?

We can all witness within this thread how "touchy" the education sector are in regard to criticism of their performance.

Sore spots have that effect.?

I hardly consider myself “ticked off” !
But I woukd hope that the next time I read of some distraught member who has had her dear cat PTS, I would not have the ineptitude to say that I am glad I don’t have one, Chase them out of the garden and have never liked cats ?

(Ducks behind sofa)

As I said earlier, better to have your DH under your feet than 6 feet under

Suzey

Wow! MawB ticked off!

I am a widow, but don’t take exception to ladies whinging about their husbands’ bad habits. I find it quite funny, and remember the times that my DH used to drive me potty with his contrariness and annoying habits.
Of course, now that he isn’t here to irritate me I miss him enormously, and would probably be a lot more patient the second time around. That doesn’t stop me from having a laugh at what other wives (or husbands) have to put up with

Maw if I thought that by posting on a thread about husbands that I would upset those who are on their own, then I wouldnt post on it .
I would ignore the post.
Is that what I should do?

Really??

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But the OP is about husbands, I ignore posts about cats because I haven’t got one, I don’t go in and tell others that I’m allergic to cats or hate them( I’m not and I don’t , but you know what I mean)

Incredible.

It has been a year since I lost my dear husband and although I miss him so much I know how anxious he would get about the situation we now all find ourselves. It's hard being on your own but something I've gradually got use to. I am blessed to have lovely neighbours helping out where they can. My son lives fairly near and does a big weekly shop - just hope he finds the supermarket has more stock this week? My daughter lives too far away but phones me every day so have definitely felt less lonely these days. The weather has been perfect for gardening so there's always plenty to do. I hope everyone living on their own has help as this will be so important in the forthcoming time ahead.

But the OP is about husbands, I ignore posts about cats because I haven’t got one, I don’t go in and tell others that I’m allergic to cats or hate them( I’m not and I don’t , but you know what I mean)
I feel so sorry for people who have lost their partners, but I didn’t know that they would read my post and be upset, because the thread is about husbands.

I sometimes think that Gransnet should come with a health warning.

Loulelady you say
Ido dislike the prevalence on all forums of this nature to invalidate the experience of one poster because another poster “has it worse

But there is such a thing as thoughtfulness and awareness of the feelings of others.
Like not turning up at the Invictus games and moaning about your bunions, or moaning about your baby keeping you awake to a friend who has just had a miscarriage, like not saying “I could murder my husband” when it is clear that many are bereaved, some as recently as two weeks ago.
If you have not been in that situation you can have no idea of the loss, of missing them desperately, of sitting alone with your fear and worries. The same applies to those whose partners may have dementia or have life-limiting illnesses or be terminally ill and the sheer worry about coping is unimaginable.
It’s called being kind

Live and let live, we can't all go treading on eggshells for fear of upsetting someone, best lighten up and understand different people's situations, it's good Hazel feels she can let off steam and mustn't worry that some people might take her too seriously in light of their own situation.

So glad I'm on my own.

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Suzey that sounds awful, sorry you are going through that.