Neighbours Behaving Badly

I do wonder what our neighbours might be saying about us if they were on here. My husband has had to go round to his mother’s house multiple times a day over the past two weeks, so is constantly to be seen going in and out of the house. His mum has vascular dementia and has been very poorly with a UTI over the last couple of weeks. He has always promised her she would never have to go into a home and she has Carers four times a day. He has been sitting with her for hours at a time, putting drops of water into her mouth over the period of several days where she couldn’t even drink. It is allowed to go out to care for the vulnerable, but still feels wrong him coming and going all the time. I haven’t visited her as I think she has so many folk coming to the house already and I don’t want to add to the risk unnecessarily.

Goodness PammyHoops what an incredibly stressful time for you all.

As you say, what may look like a total disregard for the rules isn't necessarily the case and you are all clearly doing your best in very difficult circumstances.

Best wishes for your D and s.i.l. and congratulations on soon becoming a GM again.

Meant to say that I do it over the phone with my brother in law who lives alone in Hampshire, I live in the Highlands.
It gives us someone to talk to in these times of isolation.
it is the only social interaction that I get, I don't go out to meet people and it angers me that people flout the regulations at the weekends and when the weather is good.

I live in a rural area and my son farms. He is a couple of mile off the nearest village down a track off a country lane. He has a public footpath runs down one of his fields. Normally this path is rarely used NOW there are more people than ever they have been handling gates, touching stiles etc. Taking group photos. He knows many of them and they are not from the same household! Lambing is in full swing at the moment and he is bringing sheep in and taking sheep and lambs out so is concerned re the handling of the gates etc.

I have mentioned this before about a family down the road who are flouting the rules. The daughter-in-law who has MS and only one kidney which is been investigated as it has black spots on it; she wouldn't stay in anyway but fell last week and broke her wrist. She's been to the hospital today (even though they wouldn't allow her husband into the department) she still went shopping on her way home!! Two shops including the pet shop would only allow one member of the family in. She got aggressive and said how was she supposed to carry pet food with one hand!!"! It's just unbelievable.

If they carry on in the current circumstances never mind normal tomes think the landlord being informed is essential. I reported a neighbour for amongst other activities trampolining at 11pm, smoking at my window and having a dog (latter two were not allowed in tenancy) and they were booted out.

Thanks for your advise Gagajo,
Children live in Scotland, North Wales, Bristol and Berlin, so its hard for them to help considering travel restrictions.!!
As for Face book, personal choice really, and I choose not to join either. Every body always has an answer, before they have the full information, just commenting on the fact that following government guidelines is not as easy as first thought, we live in a street where in our late 60's makes us the youngest, so we should be helping our neighbours.

I know that we are only supposed to go shopping once a week, but I do a cryptic crossword every weekday to keep my mind active; I can only get a paper from the supermarket so go every day.
Not everyone gets their paper delivered, if at all at the moment, our local newsagent is closed because of the restrictions.

I just don't know what it will take before people realise the danger they're putting themselves and others in.
Why do they think they can act and just carry on with no consideration or responsibility?? SO angry.

I think my neighbours probably talk or comment about me too. I live over the road to out local hospital and I have my daughter (8 months pregnant) her 4 year old and her husband arrive on my drive daily. Her husband is undergoing radiotherapy daily and she can’t go into the hospital with him or take my DGS. He can’t drive due to the brain tumour so she has to be taxi. We do not have a coffee or socialise but I let them in the house for an hour and a half. They go straight to DGS bedroom where he plays with his toys. They are both so careful to touch nothing. No kiss or hug. If he uses the bathroom it gets a good wipe down with anti bac wipes after he has gone.
When she goes into labour I will have to have her husband and son here as he has up to 20 seizures a day and has lost his hearing as well as his hair due to this treatment. He has already had brain surgery and will be stating another 7 months of cheamo after this.
I am working from home and haven’t left my house for over 3 weeks. Sometimes circumstances dictate necessary risks even if it looks like a family visit.

I go out once a day by car to my allotment to water the vegetables and take my dog for a walk around the perimeter avoiding contact with other users. Don't want to flout the rules but dog needs exercise and the exercise and fresh air do us both good. Its about 1 mile away and safer to use the car than walking. If this is wrong, please let me know, many thanks

So...you would do WHAT if you lived in a small flat with no outside space, the garden out of bounds, the garden seat outside the front door out of bounds with tape around it …..you would obvious stay in your tiny flat ...no one to get shopping, no one to communicate with ……..or WOULD YOU …..we can all complain about everyone else and what they do ...you do not know their circumstances and NO ONE knows who has had the virus, who is incubating as you can be asymptomatic for days before you suddenly get struck down …..care workers have inadequate PPE but are still expected to call or their elderly patients have no one at all ….judge not least ye be judged....

Call the police.

But it is different Chardy! This is how the others see it who break rules,but it IS different.maybe she should have moved in with mum before we got lockdown.what we need is a Real lockdown like Italy!

I have also watched a nurse take the most ridiculous chances in these circumstances (and also prior to this).
This week that nurse was the one who facilitated 3 households to come together. Among the people involved there were cancer patients and heart and lung patients.
As far as I am aware this nurse works on the corona virus patients receiving ward in a huge hospital.
Oh dear !! What chance have the rest of us got?

Please be careful when seeing a regular visitor. My neighbour's daughter visits. The daughter lives alone, the mum lives alone. They're not harming anyone by seeing each other. It's no different from the 2 of them living in one house.

We managed to buy 6 eggs from our little shop a few minutes away across a park, rather than keep for ourselves I texted my daughter (with 4 month baby & breastfeeding) offered them to her as extreme shortage in shops round here. They were all out of eggs, plus a couple of other things so I washed my hands, wiped down the egg container with Dettol & the tins with soapy water, washed a plastic bag before loading, didn't touch anything else & hubby drove the three miles to them. I even closer the car door with my bottom, used my elbow to ring the bell and went back to car, waved through window but didn't loiter. The local village Bobby observed us go to and return from their address. It's heartbreaking I agree but the thought of infecting that longed for wee mite or her parents just strengthens my resolve. Luckily she's not old enough to ask where's her Nana's & grandpops are.

If they want the virus to be eradicated then they must follow the rules! The police should tag all the ones who have parties etc then they'd be sorry.

And thing is people these days dont just retaliate with 'throwing an egg' do they? Theres attacks& knifings& shootings,as theres some psycho's out there these days..a poor nurse had her cat savagely brutalised it was on news emails this morning,poor thing had to be put down.so clearly the 'nutters' are still going out,only after dark,it would seem.

I had to have a MRI scan Last week at a large hospital,and was astounded the amount of people in the corridors not following the 2M rule!!
Even though 5 people had died that day from the virus!!

They are breaking regulations so report them. You can moan all you want on here but that won't stop it. So report them.

No matter where you order from,even if its only food,theres cardboard& boxes.plus with most staying in theyve to order other things in.and yeh it may be managable at moment but if its 6 mths down line the amount is unthinkable.so i guess we can burn it then folk will moan were having bonfires again.Cant win!

newnanny, well done and they won't know who reported them.

Normally I would be reluctant to report my neighbours. Now, though, in a state of pandemic and national emergency, I feel duty bound to.

They are a threat to everyone's health. Nobody will get away with putting my family in danger.

There have been house parties and barbeques (with many guests), a fireworks party, two sets of children and grandchildren regularly visiting parents (not bringing shopping - and, finally, a front garden crammed with people for a birthday party.

All these have been within half a dozen doors of me. Then, on TV news, we're told that 'most people are complying' - really?

I think it’s very sad when neighbours start snitching on each other.

When this is all over, will you still be speaking to them?
What we don’t want is the country to become a police state.

There will always be some who don’t follow the rules.

The house next door is empty after the previous owner died shortly before Christmas. However the offspring, who live locally but not within walking distance, are treating it like the local park, visiting with their dog and other family members. What makes me even more angry is the fact that they all work in healthcare so I would have expected them to know better.

Anything else to say mawB???