Neighbours Behaving Badly

Nothing wrong with barbecues if it's just for the household and have been considering doing the same for the 3 of us under our roof. A discussion on Facebook today, sometimes taking a nasty turn, about increased cardboard, bonfires, increased call on the fire service. This is a direct result of the lockdown, with people of necessity having to have home deliveries of items, the tips being shut which means people can't take cardboard to the tips and increased domestic rubbish because of the number of meals being eaten at home rather than at work, restaurants etc. Not everyone has the space or facilities for home disposal so they are slammed for putting it out for collection, or slammed for burning it at home, so it seems that whatever people do, someone somewhere is pointing the finger and it seems no one can get it right! We're told to stay home and garden (as though everyone has gardens - not), yet those who do, get criticised for generating waste. If people do big shops to avoid going out too often, or because they're shopping for neighbours, they're accused of hoarding and putting themselves and others at risk through longer exposure time out of the home . If they do smaller more frequent trips, they're criticised for going out unnecessarily. I'm sick of hearing people niggling about each other.

suziewoozie I am well aware landlords cannot evict at present. Anyway this is not the only problem the neighbours on the other side of them are cataloguing the problems, inside and out

easybee my young neighbours are inviting friends who live a journey away and excuse me if I want to wash clothes on a Sunday I will. I am not religious.

My neighbor is a nurse with a baby, but has her mother to visit regularly, and another couple with a baby come to call often.

I have a friend on the other side of town who had not been out of the house for three weeks or had any contact with anyone but her partner, who is vulnerable; she has just become ill with shivering, night sweats, high temperature and no appetite, everything tasting foul. Perhaps they need to catch it before they believe in it?

Absolutely - call the police. This is criminally stupid behaviour at the moment.

I completely agree with you..my son works with my husband every day on the farm but lives a mile away..on his little farm and the grand kids come with him sometimes and play in my garden for a change of scene..I dont touch or hug they dont come in the house..My daughter in laws father is in a care home and she cant visit..we are very aware of the danger .But I can easily imagine some stasi minded person complaining that the kids shouldnt have a change of scene...

One of the most upsetting things about the lockdown and the need to avoid mixing due to the virus for me has been discovering the horrible selfishness of some people. Just as many of you are saying, I too have learned from friends who phone me that they are continuing to mix as usual, to visit each other or go out in their cars. It has distressed me to discover the attitudes of people I called my friends.

I wonder how many of them would take in the Queen's message and will be proud of the part they played at this time when it is over? Mixing, carrying on as though nothing is happening...

I have been very lucky with neighbours, at least on one side. They are both Doctors but have a new baby so Mum is home. Dad is doing what he can at the Hospital. But they still find time to pick up items of shopping for me. I try not to ask and only let them do it when they are shopping for themselves. Last week they got me eggs which were a Godsend!

Crazygran. Your comment is exactly right in my experience. One person on the phone said "X and I are more important than other people." Thy have absolutely no reasons at all for being "more important"! They are not ill, neither are they royalty! They just look down on the rest of us.

As for bus drivers dying... that is simply unbearable. I cannot take it. To think that people are getting on buses when they have no real need! I want to put them all in prison and throw away the key. Maybe we need that slogan everywhere, inside and outside buses especially:

Is your journey really necessary?

I think if I had elderly parents living locally I would be checking on them regularly too TBH.
We had a street gathering yesterday- we live in a Cul-de-Sac & all get on very well & have regular street parties so at 4pm yesterday we all went out in our front gardens & had a glass of wine or 2 while chatting ( shouting) at a distance with neighbours. It was really nice & no-one got nearer than about 10ft. from each other. I think it did us all a lot of good & no harm done.
We are looking out for each other anyway & doing shopping for the few very elderly couples in the road.

The landlord can’t evict at the moment anyway

Our immediate neighbours are abiding by the ‘rules‘ although we did have a coffee with our elderly neighbours and invited them into the bottom of our garden. We have a little gate! We sat 2 m apart. They brought their coffee and we had ours.

However another person locally has had family and grandchildren round on a regular basis. When I found out I really welled Up as we will not be seeing our grandchildren which we look after 3x a week or our brand new grandson of 1 week until this is all over. ( FaceTime is ok but not quite the same) .

Yesterday a beautiful sunny day we were out gardening and had the ‘company’ of music being blared out from a nearby estate! Sound certainly travelled! I said to hubby if I could work out what it was it would be ok but it was just bass pumping away?
Obviously having a grumpy day yesterday ?

Like many of you who are doing our best to be good citizens, I really miss my dd, dsil and dgc. We do facetime of course and when one of the parents come round with groceries, we have a brief few seconds chat. I would report in a heartbeat any clear and obvious breach of current guidance. Why would I not?

Scotmom I think I'd consider joining them?

I am a person that would not have reported another,,
but just heard a dear friend has caught the virus,, obviously from inside hospital.. a patient there.

now I think I would report,, perhaps the time has come when we have a duty/responsibility to report,, other than that as others have commented here... we will have our daily half hour exercise taken away from us.. there lies madness. and I fear ... what that will create in some people..

Maybe not tell the landlord, but perhaps you should inform the police

If you saw someone being attacked in the street you would report it. Anyone breaking the lock-down is potentially 'attacking' the whole community. It is very simple - REPORT THEM!

People have got to start reporting others. Its putting everyones life in danger

I consider myself fortunate to have a veranda. I have a clothes drying rack at one end and a bistro table and chairs at the other. I would love to be able to sit out when the weather is pleasant to have my meals there. After all, that is why I put the table and chairs there. Problem is.....my weed smoking neighbors have chairs on their veranda too and like being outside. YUCK !!!?

I am complying with the lockdown - however I see no issue with those fortunate enough to have gardens using them for bbq’s bonfires or anything else as long as no one not living in the home attends or comes with 6 feet of me!! There was a lot of grass cutting and tree trimming around us this weekend - that was followed by bonfires to dispose of the cuttings as the council have had to close their dumps.

Only one answer - report to the police without qualm.

I have the same problem with my sister. Her daughter lives a few roads away from her. They have all been isolated in their own homes for over two weeks and now think they are all safe to mix together. I’m sure this is wrong. Can anyone confirm this for me.
BIL and Niece both in high risk groups.

mine is the sameno brains ithink but that dont think about others I dont go iout and my children put my shopping in the porch the walk out side 6 feet away then I can talk to them I to would love a hug but have to wait

You can inform the police online...I would!

These selfish people will cause a total lockdown! I'd report them using this
www.police.uk/tua/tell-us-about/c19/tell-us-about-possible-breach-coronavirus-measures/

My son came round the other day with his family because he was dropping off food shopping for me. We took the opportunity to have a chat as a family but stood in the front garden at least 2 metres apart. My grandson stayed in the car with his Mum because he wouldn't understand social distancing. He has been desperate to see me so showed me all his animals through the can window. It was lovely to see them all in the flesh as I hate talking on video chat but it was really hard not to hug them. We all agreed it was really odd not to be able to touch or stand together. We hadn't realised we were so tactile.
All my neighbours are doing as they should but people looking at us may well have judged us for breaking the rules.

My neighbours are sticking to the rules but that might be because we live in flats with no gardens. I think its sad when neighbours are policing each other.

We were chatting on zoom with friends in Brussels.. they are fined 200€ If they are more than a kilometre from their home!