Age 68 and I got caught out by daughter shopping

Another vote for notanan

I agree with notanan They are taking an extra risk doing your shopping for you and you're giving the message that you don't appreciate that risk or their thoughtful gesture.

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I dont think you should have accepted their help if you werent going to stay in yourself.

It was unreasonable to have them running around for you if you were just going to go out anyway.

You should have declined their help from the start if you didnt intend to have the benefit (and huge privilidge) of being able to stay safe at home.

Its the fact that you have had them drop things off. AND YET you were going to the shops anyway, that was hugely unreasonable

PS Leave the phone at home x

You sound like a very sensible and responsible person.... do go out shopping and for exercise once a day if you feel like it (of course making sure you're as safe as possible). Is not good for mental or physical health to be shut indoors all day. No need to mention it to anyone who will not approve... you're doing nothing wrong.

Oopsadaisy you are wrong there. You obviously haven’t read or understood my comments and seeing as you don’t know me you are making assumptions about me.

ninathenana Sorry, I didn't mean to give a lecture but I do think some people are looking at this the wrong way and there seems to be a lot of misunderstanding.

The government hasn't banned people from shopping as some kind of punishment, but their own wellbeing. Age does appear to be a significant factor in how badly people are affected and assistance is being offered to the most vulnerable.

Most people aren't in the "extremely vulnerable" group, so they just need to take the same precautions as everybody else. However, some people should be aware that they are still more likely to be badly affected than others. I'm not over 70, but I do have underlying health conditions and I am happy to accept any help offered. I don't feel deprived because I can't go out; I feel protected.

Aglassofroseplease I'm not sure why you're thanking me. I've just told you what the situation is. If I had somebody who had offered to my shopping for me, I would gratefully accept it.

As it is, you're no more or less likely to pick up an infection from shopping than your stepdaughter. However, your age means that you have a higher risk of being badly affected. You also run the risk of passing it on to your older husband. If that's what you want, so be it.

growstuff I'm aware of that, that was my point. There is nothing wrong with over 70s shopping.

Another OP who asks us what we think , when we tell them they carry on justifying their choices, why bother posting?

Thank you growstuff ?

I think people are missing the point. Of course the OP is "allowed" to shop. The stepdaughter is trying to be helpful. This is a personal matter.

ninathenana Over 70s haven't been banned from shopping, unless they have very serious health issues. They are in "Group B" (not sure if that's the official term), which includes people over 70 and those with chronic conditions such as diabetes. The advice for them is the same as it is for the rest of the population, but to be extra vigilant. It's a bit of a grey area because I would have thought everybody should be extra vigilant anyway. It's almost as though those under 70 and without chronic health conditions are being given permission not to follow guidelines.

Why not in your pocket to allow both hands free? Still doesn't add up.

Your husband is over 70 and is at risk, let your lovely family do your shopping for you and protect your husband.

@jane10. I was carrying it in my hand - with my bank cards!!

aglassofroseplease - no need to touch your phone at all while shopping.

I am in a similar position, I'm 68 and OH is 72. My DD is alone home with her 12 year old. DD and I both watch for click and collect or delivery slots and then both add the items we want. Either my OH and I collect and leave her items on her doorstep on way home or it is delivered to us and she drives by and picks her things up from my front door. I also let my older neighbour know so she can add things. We have managed to get 3 click and collect and one delivery since lock down so a little more than once a week but keeping 3 households going. You do have to watch for the slots, though. The idea of even going into the supermarket scares me at the moment.

If over 70's are not supposed to be shopping why do supermarkets have priority hours for just such people and why are there long queues at that time. DH is still doing our shopping
He dosen't drive so I take him and wait in the car.
DD works long shifts as key worker SiL works nights as key worker and no way DS could cope with our shopping.

My friend, her husband and daughter are all registered disabled her only relative, her brother has cancer and until they could organize McMillan to do his shopping they were doing his as well. She tried on line and click and collect, nothing for a fortnight.

Some of you are not reading my original post and /or jumping to conclusions

jane10 I accidentally went into the family chat on my phone! Why would you presume otherwise?

I agree with Chestnet, avoid the shops if you can. The less you are close to other people and what they have touched, the better. The advice is to shop for self and dependents once a week.

What on earth were you doing on a family video chat while out shopping? You should have been concentrating on getting the shopping as quickly and efficiently as possible and getting home. I see your DDs point.

Why are they less likely to pick the virus up if they do the shopping? This is the bit I don't understand. Working where she does she is more likely to pick the virus up anyway. Anyone can pick the virus up locally as they can in a supermarket. You are keeping to the restrictions by the book. Do keep checking for click collect slots. They do appear suddenly. By the way I am 69 and shop locally in small coop. Aisles are so narrow you can't help but come close to each other. I was so pleased to get a click collect. I do have to get fresh produce regularly...locally

I'd much rather shop myself than have a hospital worker, who is closer to the virus, shop for me.