breaking the rules, or not

This isn’t the UK is it?

Well I would offer to stay overnight (even if it means sleeping on the sofa; one or two nights a week is bearable) and then you could do the night feeds and give the parents a rest. I would class it as exceptional circumstances if your daughter is getting distressed. After the Cummings fiasco, can't think that anyone would report you anyway.

Apologies if I implied separating mother and baby - absolutely not. I meant grandma staying over or mum, baby and dad staying with her. Whatever works best

Two weeks isn't even long enough to have established a routine, I'd imagine.
Swooping in and taking over isn't going to help.

Taking a 2 week old baby away from its mother?
Are you serious? What about the importance of new parents bonding with their baby?
Bottle fed babies can be even more prone to colic than breast fed, but from what you are suggesting I take it your daughter is mot breast feeding.
Can’t her partner take his turns pacing the floor with their baby.
I think it is a really bad idea for grandma to attempt to “solve everything” in this way by taking her baby’s mum’s place.
Perhaps a Health Visitor or community midwife might sanction mum and baby staying, but a colicky 2 week old baby is not that unusual if he/she has not yet established feeding.
Why not go over and take the baby out in the pram to give you daughter a break, say in the afternoon so that she can have a nap?
Is her partner still on paternity leave or back at work?

I think it’s a really bad idea to separate mum from baby. Having both mum & baby would be better but I’m not sure what the rules are where you live.

If you’re already going to the house in the day, why not allow the mother to go to bed and sleep then? You can either look after the baby or she can have a ‘baby moon’ where she and the baby are settled together in a bedroom with food, drink & entertainment on hand for mum and she can be close to the baby whenever she wants.

If you think this is a serious depression as opposed to ‘baby blues’ then I think you need to get professional input.

I hope things settle down soon.

Yes I agree the midwife should be spoken to. But she wont be able to actually help at the crucial times.

I'm betting Mum has tried everything, including walking around with baby and music playing EllanVannin, but I get the impression that the situation is way beyond that now.

What a lovely Mum you are!
I take it the baby can be bottle fed? I agree with you and others.
Babies and children suffer the least of all of us (if at all according to research) from c19 or passing it on to others, so IMV the baby alone is not at risk.
Things are changing with regards to the 'rules' every day.

Your daughters situation needs your support now.

She's a very luck daughter, I'm envious of your relationship with her and the baby.

The very best of luck to all of you.

Only 2 weeks. You really can't take the baby away from its mum. Midwife or Health Visitor should be assessing the situation and advising.
If you're round at DDs house during the day anyway why not pack her off to bed then for a couple of hours. Sleep doesn't always have to be at night.

If baby is only 2 weeks old they really need to be with their mum especially if breastfed. Are you sure it is colic and not acid reflux and/or dairy allergy? My DD had this problem with both of hers and was constantly up most of the night. It could even be that baby is tongue tied although this should have been checked out but is sometimes missed and won’t be getting enough feed.Best to speak to the midwife or health visitor for some expert advice.

At 2 weeks old a midwife would be the first port of call as they're usually on visits up to 6 weeks after the birth. Much as this is worrying all round it's still best for everyone to stay put.

Meanwhile make sure the baby is getting enough milk as if he/she is still hungry this can cause it. If so, just walk around nursing the child and have some music or background sounds going on to soothe it.

Fortunately they do grow out of it so not always a long-term thing.

I agree, it comes under the heading of exceptional circumstances really, either go and live with them, have them stay with you, or take the baby to give DD a break.
Where do you live, France?

I agree with you, I don’t think you would get into any trouble.I would insist on having the baby with you. When I had my first baby my exhaustion led to chronic depression, which lasted 6 years. My mother was frantic with worry, but she lived in Britain and I lived in France- travelling was expensive at the time, and a lot more difficult than nowadays. I would have given anything to have her near to me-she understood my depression, and to be able to sleep and recuperate would have helped me enormously.

Pinkhousegirl
I wouldn't think twice about it. I bring the baby home to me and let mum get some very needed rest.
If anyone dare threaten me with a fine I would take it to court where it wouldn't hold water.

I think that would count as exceptional circumstances and, particularly as lockdown is easing somewhat, an overnight stay or two would be the ‘common sense’ way forward. If it made your daughter feel better, she could always get the GP, midwife or health visitor to give the plan their blessing - in writing if necessary - which I’m sure would be forthcoming. Good luck.

Do not take the baby out of the home! you would be breaking the rules as I'm sure you know really!