dogsmother
Okay this is not going to be popular.
I’m in Guernsey where things have moved on, we have used the pub during the first stage it was fine. Table service people kept their distance. The publicans are desperate to rekindle the business and were outstanding at observing standards of hygiene.
This whole thread is quite a husband bashing and reality is please trust him tell him your fears. He could be safe if he follows all the guidelines and then you will be too if you don’t want to go with him.
I really like dogsmothers post and I agree with all she has said.
I’m guessing that meeting friends in the pub was an important part of your partner’s life. Not seeing them, and pubs closing, may have made his life seem flat and colourless and each day seem much the same as another, and it stretched on and on. I’m not saying there were no good things too during this time - I don’t know how he spent this time. I know I’d miss my friends dreadfully - but I have Zoom and can now meet them outside.
So to hear the pubs were open and he could see friends again must have filled him with joy - and instead he is being expected to continue to be locked down (or locked up as he might see it). What is his alternative? How has he had fun during lockdown or does it seem more of the same?
I’m hoping that, once he calms down, he’ll think of safer ways such as already suggested, like going at quieter times and sitting outside rather than inside. Or having friends round in the garden if that’s possible as another pp suggested.
Constantly rowing won’t help. He knows how you feel so you don’t need to keep telling him and he’ll metaphorically put his fingers in his ears. After all, you’re the party pooper who wants him to carry on not seeing friends or having fun when everyone else will be.
I hope you will be able to choose a time to share your concerns while also trying to understand and reflect back how he is feeling, and come up with a compromise that suits you both.
I do think pubs will look and be run differently than before they shut, as a pp described up thread.
You say you’re helping your dd with two children under the age of two. What does he do when you are doing this? Is he involved? If not, he may not be on board with your worries. Is he bored and lonely? It’s worth thinking of what he is missing so much that he wants to rush to the pub again.
Or you can just move out of course....