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Cannot find clear answer ..... help!

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Katek Sat 25-Jul-20 23:56:50

I live in Scotland and have been shielded. I’m now visit others indoors, use their toilet etc as long as we maintain social distancing. Under 11s no longer have to socially distance, so as an ex shielder can I now hug my grandsons as other grandparents are already doing?

BlueBelle Sun 26-Jul-20 08:06:13

Do what you feel is right for you and your family no one can judge as no one but you and your family know your circumstance or know any details about your way of life
Talk it over with your children and make your own decision Everybody s. circumstances are different so no one size fits all I ve hugged my grandkids for a few weeks but that’s been our decision After looking at all the pros and cons I live in a low
affected area my grandkids although at work use all the correct PPE so I feel perfectly safe but others will feel differently Everyone has to make their own decisions as regards family

Illte Sun 26-Jul-20 08:53:14

I agree with Bluebell. You have to assess the risk. It's an equation.

Prevalence of virus in your area
Amount of contact your gs has with others
Likelihood that you will be very ill if you catch it
How much the hug is a want or a need

Weigh it all up, make your own decision and accept any possible consequences.

Marydoll Sun 26-Jul-20 08:59:46

Katek, I'm in the same position as you. Last week, My son and DIL suggested being in a bubble with me, to allow me to hug my DGD. She has not hugged anyone else apart from her parents during the whole of lockdown and as they were being very careful and self isolating, the risk is very low.

However, to our shock, last week my wee four year old DGD received ( a very late) shielding letter, which which meant that we could have all been shielding together from the beginning.

The risk with children under eleven is low and you yourself will know if your family have been adhering to guidelines, so you have to make your decision based on that.

Wishing you all the best and hoping we will eventually make it to another Edinburgh meet up.

Katek Sun 26-Jul-20 20:54:52

Thanks for comments - I think I’m just finding it difficult to assess risk/make decisions after 19 weeks of being told what to do! It was relatively easy to comply as there was a certainty that I was doing the ‘right thing’. Now I have choices and judgments to make it’s a bit more difficult.

On balance the area in which I live has had a very low incidence of infection/deaths and my son and family live near Inverness and Highland has had an even lower incidence. My grandsons are only 5 and 7 and the family jhave been very good in observing the guidelines. I think it will be ok to give them a hug. It’s not so much a want or a need on my part, but the little boys are desperate to hug us and I don’t want to get out of the car and shoo them off. I shall call practice nurse tomorrow just for that final bit of reassurance (hopefully)

Marydoll - here’s hoping it won’t be too long before an Edinburgh meet-up. Hope you’re wellsmile