Refusing to wear a mask

leyburn

Well said Esspee, we are being scammed big time by the so-called experts. This is all about control, not the virus.

I don’t understand what you are saying here ?

Why do you have to say anything? It’s his choice, just let it go.

He sounds wealthy enough to have excellent health insurance so, like Trump, he’d get top treatment. If the subject comes up again naturally in conversation, (and I agree with other posters, don’t raise the issue yourself) perhaps you could say that you’re concerned about the millions of poor Americans without health insurance. As in this country, it is they who are actually supplying the better off (who can stay safe within their walls, big gardens and second homes) with all their food and services. The least he can do is wear a mask for them when out and about enjoying his life.

The US is proud of its independence and hard-won freedoms.

Alas, we in the Britain have become an island of snow flakes, scared of our own shadows. Our ancestors would be so ashamed of us.

I wouldn't say anything. Do what you feel you should do so far as your own behaviour is concerned and leave it at that.

There are so many different opinions - even among experts - that I'm of the view that washing hands, keeping safe distance, not mixing in big groups, wearing masks on public transport and in shops, and - as much as possible - avoiding crowds should be the basic steps that most people should try to stick to. People who feel they are especially vulnerable or who are just very nervous are free to limit their activities even further but it is my view that too many restrictions are causing massive problems in other areas, including in referrals for other serious illnesses.

He's a grown up.
They are their children.
Don't give critical feedback unless they ask your opinion.

Your son is an adult and as such has the right to make his own decisions.

I well understand why you think he has made a wrong decision in this case, but you are likely only to make him hold to it more stubbornly if you criticise him.

So don't bring up the subject again. If he mentions it, say quietly that you will need to agree to differ about wearing masks as you and his father intend to keep on doing so.

Say nothing. He is an adult and entitled to do what he thinks is right. An adult should not have to defer to his mother's opinions.

Interesting point Dylant1234 when he brings the subject up I’m going to use that tack. Thank you.

I was out for lunch a few weeks ago listening to one of the men go on & on about not wearing a mask cos he looked like a highway man! I said better looking like that than with tubes coming out of you. I didn't argue with him, I just made the comment and carried on eating. He now wears a mask....

If I was your son I would be more angry about you labelling his wife, the mother of your grandchildren, “a trophy wife” ?

kwest I will most certainly be taking your advice. ?

I’d be cross with my son but agree with others who say there’s probably no mileage in getting into an argument about it.

My oldest son and family live in the US but they all wear masks, as do pretty much all his friends and his in-laws. Not everyone in the US is like Trump!

Does anyone know if wearing a mask with a filter makes any difference? I have acquired some masks with a supply of filters. Will those make me - and people around me - safer?

It’s curious. I’ve read on this thread about people not wearing masks in the U.K., but in my neck of the woods everyone in shops and on public transport seems to be wearing them.

I am in Scotland though where our First Minister Nicola is respected and listened to on the pandemic. Even by those who are against her politically.

My son in Australia is a bit of a none believer too. We have just agreed to not talk about the subject. Our calls are usually short and sweet and I would rather discuss my granddaughter than the different world we are coping with at the moment

I like this:

If you told him that you had decided not to wear a mask, what would he say?

Good God he is a grown man and old enough to make his own decisions. Stay out of it and say nothing! That's his opinion and he is entitled to it. I personally feel the same and do not wear a mask but I do not visit shops and have shopping delivered. It has been overhyped and the figures come from those who have been tested, they have caused the figures to spike. The people tested haven't got it now. I have several friends who work for the NHS and even though they make a big fuss on the news about the Hospitals being busy, it could not be further from the truth and hospitals are empty. My local one only had 8 patients in last week. Say nothing to your Son or you may regret it.

In the grown up world of relationships that I live in, we think part of being grown up and a sign of a healthy relationship is discussing issues, stating opinions, being challenged and disagreeing. I’ll repeat again, he brought the issue up and should therefore have been prepared for a response.

"Trophy Wife" oh what a lovely way of addressing your daughter in law and mother of you grandchildren.

I think he's right

You should be like Trump. I am in the UK but have friends in the US and from what I have observed and read he is the best president the U.S has ever had. I believe he genuinely cares for the people of the U.S and loves his country whereas Biden does not. I would not trust him at all and think he will be bad news for the U.S. I would happily swap Boris for Trump. A mask will not protect you but the selling of masks is big business with plenty of money being made from them so can understand why they are pushing them. My son wears one and still ended up with a cold.

lizzypopbottle ?

?Well you are certainly in the minority on Gransnet Ilovecats2.
Perhaps your post meant to be ironical?