Pandemic changing the way we treat people’s concerns

I agree Marydoll, but I think the stray lemon pip was a light hearted post, which we all need to read at times. A bit like switching off the news and watching Death in Paradise instead!
You have had a rough time recently from what I have read. I’m starting a third line of chemo next week for ovarian cancer, so I know how things can seem trivial compared to my situation, but I find things that make me smile are more important than ever at the moment.

It can be a convenient excuse to close down a discussion as well. There was a recent thread about the Labour party on which posters were asked by one poster if they had nothing else to think about and shouldn't they be be talking about covid instead.

Otherwise I agree with the posts above, I especially like the analogy about the stubbed toe.
Posts are not always worries as such, "lemonpipgate" was more of an enquiry than a worry wasn't it.

Another thing is, it is sometimes almost nice to have a small worry that takes ones mind away from the great big worry that consumes one for most of the time.

Whenever I see a rather batty OP I hope it will lead to funny contributions from other gransnetters.

Laughter is the best medicine.

Very wise words Marydoll.

I have to say I haven't really noticed any more intolerance than usual. In fact, I've experienced nothing but kindness in the last week, apart from one poster, to whom I soon gave short shrift!

I'm going to play devil's advocate here.
Imagine you have spent nine months shielding, trying to keep yourself safe, staying away from hospital and you find yourself lying in A&E, alone and scared, your family are not allowed to be with you, you are awaiting a bed in Coronary Care, so you look at GN on your phone to pass the time.

The first post you read is from a poster, who is worried about a lemon pip in her home made hummus.
You can feel your BP rising and a desire to tell the poster, that her post is insensitive, considering the pain and sadness some posters (including you) are experiencing in their life.

However, you stop and think. What if the pip is just the last straw for that poster and there is so much going on behind the scenes.
You decide to keep your thoughts to yourself, no matter how annoyed you are.
Sometimes it's best to just keep quiet.

What seems a small problem to one person can give another sleepless nights.
I think mostly people are kind on Gransnet. Those that diminish the problem may only be doing it to make the poster feel that it's nothing to worry about rather being heartless.

I agree this pandemic is making people less tolerant on social media platforms. This won't necessarily be the same in real life, where I feel people are kinder and more considerate. I came to this site in a state of distress. Some people were dismissive and harsh in their response, but others were not and I appreciated their support and I stayed!
This is a site with a big membership and so you are bound to get a mix of responses.
Anxious people are hooked on the adrenaline pumping round their systems, it doesn't make them bad people but they can't help but drag others down too. Don't play the game and they will calm down.

I think a lot of people are lonely and even more so with this current terrible situation we are in. We all probably have issues which are blown out of proportion because we feel more isolated. Gransnet is probably the only communication some may have so it's nice to be kind rather than negative.

..... no problem is too small to matter in some context.

If you have just stubbed your toe on a table leg, at that moment in time that problem means more to you and causes you more grief than anything else in life - and why shouldn't it?

'First World problem' is a stupid remark made by ignorant people. At times of great tribulation, it is nearly always a small insignificant problem that is the final straw.

Some years ago I was looking after an elderly relative suffering from severe depression. I took him to the doctor and went into the surgery with him. When the doctor asked him what the problem was, he broke down and told the doctor that he couldn't open the chest freezer. The doctor spoke quietly and calmly and acknowledged what a problem this could be when you didn't feel well and then went on to inquire about his mental and physical care and did more for him in that one encounter than other doctors who saw him more frequently. I learnt a lesson that day I have never foorgotten.

No problem is

I understand that too well silverdragon but I think a forum is slightly different as you dont have to take that worry on board in the way you do with a partner. I find it quite difficult when people say why worry about a particular problem because there are much worse things going on, I think it's possible to be concerned about more than one thing.

I get your point. But it could also work the other way in that the poster could think, you know something, this isn't as great a problem as I thought.

I live with someone who has a constant 'worry list'. When something's solved, the next problem appears. I've learnt to try and get them to see a wider perspective of things. Doesn't always work but I can't afford mentally to get sucked into their list of worries.

Doubt people will agree with this, but I find it does work sometimes.

So I really don’t agree with the current trend that when someone posts about a matter that means something to them ,even if it seems relatively unimportant to some who read them they are told ‘1st world problem ‘

Do you have an example of this use of '1st world problem'?

Yes with bells on.

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Totally agree. If someone posts a concern it's a real issue for them. I strongly feel that if a poster has no positive advice or observations then they should move on.