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Son and wife not having the vaccination

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Schumee Thu 06-May-21 12:59:15

My eldest son and his wife have made it clear that they are not having the Covid vaccine. I feel really disappointed in them but realise everyone has to make their own decisions. I just feel that I wont be happy having them in my house and will have to see them in outside venues. My grand daughter is 9 and I have only seen her twice in the past year. I used to help out with child care during the holidays but I dont feel happy doing this now. AIBU

Summerlove Wed 12-May-21 12:18:26

sodapop

Not sure I agree with that heavy handed approach either JenniferEccles the government telling us what to think again. I do have concerns about the way Covid has opened the door to all sort of controls being imposed. Of course a lot of them were necessary but ..........

I agree with that Soda. I hope that the reins are loosened as covid risks lower, but I do understand why some “conspiracy theorists” believe they will not.

sodapop Tue 11-May-21 12:38:12

Not sure I agree with that heavy handed approach either JenniferEccles the government telling us what to think again. I do have concerns about the way Covid has opened the door to all sort of controls being imposed. Of course a lot of them were necessary but ..........

JenniferEccles Tue 11-May-21 11:16:05

This is tricky isn’t it?
Have you calmly discussed it with them?
It’s always difficult where family is concerned as we want to respect their wishes and not fall out with them.
I would have to discuss it with mine though to try to see if I could allay any possible fears.
Thankfully all of mine (and all their friends apparently) have always been enthusiastic about the vaccines.

Interestingly there was something on the tv news last night about how all these idiotic and harmful anti-vaccination internet sites are to be closed down.

I’m really surprised that there are still people who believe all the nonsense spouted on there but I guess if anyone has reservations initially, then these sites just reinforce their views.

I do however think it’s reasonable for younger adults to look into which vaccine to have, in view of the latest advice for the under forties.

But to refuse all of them? No.

nanna8 Tue 11-May-21 08:13:11

Skye17

nanna8

I’ve had the first dose but the second isn’t until mid June. Anyone know how just one dose would protect, just curious ? It was astra Zeneca. They don’t tell you much here about that sort of thing.

In one study in England, one dose of AstraZeneca cut the number of people who caught Covid in the vaccinated group by 76%, compared to the number who caught Covid in an unvaccinated group. But these are differences between groups. The reduction in risk for an individual will vary from the group reduction in risk to some extent. I e it will be around 76% but not necessarily exactly 76%.

Thanks for the info Skye17. Good to know.

rac47 Tue 11-May-21 07:47:53

You are not being unreasonable at all. Some younger people are dubious about the vaccine, in case it effects fertility, so that may be a reason for their refusal. Just a thought.

Missingmoominmama Mon 10-May-21 20:59:29

I’m 55 and had the Astra Zeneca, Café. I have Osteoarthritis and am currently having tests for other forms of Arthritis too.

sodapop Mon 10-May-21 17:04:49

I really can't respect the decision of someone who doesn't agree with the Covid vaccination but will have one if it affects his ability to have a holiday.

Lin52 Mon 10-May-21 16:34:26

Boogaloo

I am not getting the vaccine and neither is my youngest son and his fiancée. My husband has had both of of his.

Many young people are concerned about the long term effects of these vaccines.

I’d be more concerned about the long lasting effects of COVID 19, long covid, inflammatory, untreatable lung disease.

Toadinthehole Mon 10-May-21 11:33:17

There’s many things we do everyday, and have done for many years, which makes it necessary to put our trust in others. Going to buy food from the shops being one example. You may as well say we should all stop eating, say cheese for example....because we don’t know the long term affects. We’ve had vaccines for decades, they all had to start somewhere.

I can understand people being cautious of course. I was to start with....but many people have worked long and hard over these vaccines. In the past, vaccines took many years simply because we had time for them to. Now we don’t. It may turn out that we’ve been over cautious in the past. I suppose we’ll never know.

If people don’t want to take it, that’s fine, as long as there’s no risk of them putting someone else in danger.

esgt1967 Mon 10-May-21 10:59:13

I have had both jabs and believe my eldest daughter (she's 28 and a teacher) will have the jab in due course- she and her partner had Covid earlier in the year. However, even if they didn't, it wouldn't affect my desire to socialise with and visit them, I think we all have to make our own personal decisions on risk - I could have a car crash on the 2.5 hour journey up to see them but that doesn't stop me doing it!

cazmarelda Mon 10-May-21 09:20:20

A close friend refuses to have the shots and she is of the age and medical condition when she really should.
Her cousin who is always marching against the Covid injections and going to meetings convinced her of all sorts of lies and also even about the flu vaccine, which she always had but not the last year'
I have not been round because her cousin was always there we could not sit out back and he would have simply lectured me,
I had my first shot and waiting for second and did have my flu vaccine. I explained to my friend it was her choice but the flu vaccine did not contain some of the ingredients her cousin was saying. I also explained that I was having the Covid shots because I believed in them.
This was is January and I have not heard from her since. So it appears that myths have ended a friendship.
Once I am topped up I would have visited again if the cousin was not there. I know some people cannot have the vaccine and so would feel safe visiting.
Why people who can have it are choosing not to is their business, but it may cause problems for them with friends and family and travelling and such.

Skye17 Sun 09-May-21 13:58:10

Kryptonite

Language is interesting. The publicity (propaganda?) has changed to say that the AZ is safe for most people. So some of us it's not safe for. But who?Under 40s will no longer have it. Keep an eye on the language.

It’s not a matter of safe or unsafe, black or white. There is an extremely small risk of blood clots from the AZ vaccine – much smaller than the risk of blood clots from catching Covid. Few things in life are 100% safe.

According to PHE the risk of clotting problems is around one in 50,000 for the first dose of AZ if you are under 40. Over 40 it is around 1 in 100,000.
assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/984255/PHE_12015_COVID-19_vaccination_and_blood_clotting_leaflet_v2.pdf

The language has changed to reflect the new finding of this very small risk.

Skye17 Sun 09-May-21 13:40:50

nanna8

I’ve had the first dose but the second isn’t until mid June. Anyone know how just one dose would protect, just curious ? It was astra Zeneca. They don’t tell you much here about that sort of thing.

In one study in England, one dose of AstraZeneca cut the number of people who caught Covid in the vaccinated group by 76%, compared to the number who caught Covid in an unvaccinated group. But these are differences between groups. The reduction in risk for an individual will vary from the group reduction in risk to some extent. I e it will be around 76% but not necessarily exactly 76%.

ElderlyPerson Sun 09-May-21 13:30:15

Kryptonite

Language is interesting. The publicity (propaganda?) has changed to say that the AZ is safe for most people. So some of us it's not safe for. But who?Under 40s will no longer have it. Keep an eye on the language.

It always seems to be cliff edges with ages.

Like the semi-joke that food goes instantly rotten at midnight at the end of the last day of the month.

So if someone is 39 and 364 days of age, ooh no, but becoming 40 that's supposedly different!

Kryptonite Sun 09-May-21 12:43:35

Language is interesting. The publicity (propaganda?) has changed to say that the AZ is safe for most people. So some of us it's not safe for. But who?Under 40s will no longer have it. Keep an eye on the language.

Kryptonite Sun 09-May-21 12:10:55

I had the vaccine AZ to please other people and because of where I work. Did not want to have it because of potential side effects. Very unhappy day and anxious weeks following.

Kryptonite Sun 09-May-21 11:57:24

If they are under 40 they can have Pfizer (or Moderna) and not have to worry about life threatening blood clots. No one should be forced to have it though. An informed choice is always best.

maddyone Sun 09-May-21 11:44:30

Oopsadaisy1

We might meet up, but as I’m struggling to breathe with a bad Asthma episode, the thought of listening to his conspiracy theories about Covid and telling us that it’s just bad flu, really makes me want to avoid him and quite possibly never see him again, but he has been a mate of DHs since Primary School.

I appreciate you don’t agree with him, but does that mean you should (never) possibly see him again?
Seems quite extreme to me.

Oopsadaisy1 Sun 09-May-21 09:37:41

We might meet up, but as I’m struggling to breathe with a bad Asthma episode, the thought of listening to his conspiracy theories about Covid and telling us that it’s just bad flu, really makes me want to avoid him and quite possibly never see him again, but he has been a mate of DHs since Primary School.

Lin663 Sun 09-May-21 08:53:23

If you’ve had yours I wouldn’t worry...though I am flabbergasted that anyone in their right mind would refuse to have it...nowt so queer as folk

Oopsadaisy1 Sun 09-May-21 07:52:37

After a phone conversation with DHs old school friend last night we won’t be meeting up with them any time soon, always anti government, anti vaccine and now even more sure that he is right.
The more you talk to him the more you realise that he will find plenty of proof on the Internet to back up his side of the argument.
Thank goodness it was DH on the phone with him, i would have have hung up on him. The only way he will get a vaccine is if it affects his long haul holidays, so maybe he will get it eventually.

On the other hand of course, if and when we go out and about we will be next to plenty of people who haven’t had the jab, so maybe we are all being over cautious? I know that I’m fed up with being at home for so long.

eagleswings Sun 09-May-21 06:41:26

Well said Franbern.
We are so fortunate to live in a society where vaccines are available. This is our only way to return to normal.
If I owned a pub or a restaurant I would be looking for proof of vaccination, otherwise it would like allowing a person with a loaded gun to enter. Covid kills.

CafeAuLait Sun 09-May-21 03:57:30

TwinLolly, vaccines can't be coerced or forced. It might come down to what the industry is. I know of one case where the employer was taken to court for unfair dismissal over the flu vaccine and the employer won. So it might come down to decide to have the jab or find a new job.

CafeAuLait Sun 09-May-21 03:53:20

nanna8

I’ve had the first dose but the second isn’t until mid June. Anyone know how just one dose would protect, just curious ? It was astra Zeneca. They don’t tell you much here about that sort of thing.

I would expect it would be variable but it should give you some protection. Not sure how much.

CafeAuLait Sun 09-May-21 03:52:22

Grammaretto

I know a young man of 25, who works for the police, who developed covid last April so in the very early days. He was in hospital but then returned home. Even after a year he has not properly recovered, has several health problems, including great fatigue and has been off work ever since.
It's a dreadful disease.
I am so grateful that I and my family have had the vaccine.

Has he had the vaccine now? How did he go? I read something a few weeks back that the vaccine might be helping people with long covid symptoms. If true, that could help a lot of people. I hope it's true.