What would you have done?

Might just be hay fever, I'm still suffering. I hope you had an enjoyable chat, anyway.

She was the one who was rude.
She was the one who went against the grain for a good visitor.
Why are some people so keen on the idea of being trampled on because it's 'polite'?

Against the grain indeed.
She was OK about it. I hope I expressed it in a kindly way.

How was her reaction to you?
A very difficult situation. I think you were very wise but I’m not sure I would have been brave enough not to let her in your house. It just goes against the grain. ?

Biscuit muncher, I agree. That’s why we’re out and about at restaurants, theme parks and shopping centres a lot more since lockdown eased.
But if someone arrived with streaming cold, I still wouldn’t invite them in. The vaccine isn’t proof against colds.

We are never going to get back to normal are we. Why get the vaccine if you've no faith in it

I have just had a call from her and she went for a walk where I had suggested and she enjoyed it. She is still coughing and sniffling but feels well in herself.

I think you've done the best you could, for both of you.
She really should have been more honest with you, and given you the choice to refuse her company.

Luckgirl you have to protect yourself. You did the right thing. I would have done the same. But then again my relatives would have warned me before hand then it was my choice whether or not to risk it.

Few months ago my grandson's had a cold I was going to babysit so my daughter warned me . I still went . Usually I don't catch cold from them but this time I did. Worse cold I have ever had. But I soon got better.

But I would still have looked after my grandson's but it was my choice.

Your sister in law should never have left home. Wonder how many people she infected?

My daughter has had a heavy cold, and I suggested she rang 111 on Sunday as she was due to start a new job the next day, and they wouldn't thank her for bringing Covid with her.

She got a good telling off from 111 and was told to get a PCR test ASAP and self-isolate (luckily it was -ve). As said earlier, a lateral flow test is not accurate enough.

I think you did the right thing. I couldn’t have told her, just worried for the next 10 days.

The rat was your sister-in-law, for expecting you to be welcoming to her and her germs, whatever they are.

I think you did exactly the right thing and with kindness too. Some of my family, double jabbed at that, have had Covid recently. Symptoms started with a cold, stuffed up nose and scratchy throat but then the adults in the family went on to be quite unwell. It’s against your nature to do what you’ve had to do but Covid is the last thing you need after all you’ve gone though this past year or so.

You did the right thing Luckygirl and in a very nice kind way.. No need to feel guilty at all.

You did the right thing Luckygirl. At the very least she should have told you she had a cold and asked if it was still OK for her to come.

As others have said, even if it's just a cold you shouldn't be spreading it about.

I wouldn’t have wanted her with just a cold, never mind the chance it could be covid! How thoughtless and selfish of her. Why do people think it’s alright to do things like this?

I wouldn’t accommodate her at all. She would have been sent straight back. You’re a lot more welcoming than I would have been. I’ll be honest....it’s making me livid thinking about it.

You keep safe. You’re not in the wrong in any way.

She's thoughtless. Covid or not, I want people with colds to avoid me, please! You did the right thing.

I did all I could for her - made her a cake to take away with her; and researched places round here that she could take her camper and have a walk.

It was very hard to basically be unwelcoming - not something I would normally do.

Thanks for the helpful messages.

Luckygirl Please don't feel bad you have to think of yourself and no one else at this unpredictable time,surely she should have realised the consequences that could arise out of her visit.I hope she travels straight home again and does not "visit" anyone else until she is well.

I agree with the others. You did exactly the right thing. What on earth was your SIL thinking?

Luckygirl, you have done the right thing . Your SIL really should have stayed at home , she may have Covid or a heavy cold - either way you don't want to catch it !! My daughter is double jabbed but now has Covid , so does her 6 year old daughter. Husband and younger child having PCR tests and so far are testing negative. Daughter feeling rotten , 6 year old is symptom free! Being vaccinated is no defense against Covid - just prevents us being seriously ill. Fortunately we hadn't seen our daughter or GC for over 3 weeks prior to her positive test result.
Don't feel bad about your decision , Covid is no joke even if vaccinated. The risk is too great to take, take care .

Even if it is "just a cold" I think you've done the right thing.
It could be Covid but even if not, I think no-one wants to be near someone with a cold anyway.

There do seem to have been fewer colds around with masks, handwashing and distancing and I think we may have forgotten just how rotten they can make you feel and can go on to cause a chest infection if you're prone to them.

She shouldn't have come to see you if she was feeling full of cold.

Double vaccinated friend of my daughter has just caught Covid for the second time. If I remember correctly, I think around 20% of those being hospitalised have been double vaccinated.
You can't afford to make assumptions about cold type symptoms especially with lateral flow false negative possibilities as someone said above.

You did a good job there Luckygirl. You fed her and provided electricity. Regardless of Covid, I would expect someone with a heavy cold to cancel their visit.

Not normal times indeed. I hate it all. My instinct is to be welcoming which is why I am finding this so hard. I have some health vulnerabilities too.

I just felt that I have followed all the rules, in spite of that meaning having to cut myself off from my family immediately after my husband died - it has been miserable, and I just feel I cannot make all of that in vain just for someone I do not really know very well.