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NotSpaghetti Thu 01-May-25 17:40:57

It began as group support during difficult times and although Covid has faded a little, the friendship has endured and become stronger.

Still here for anyone to join a non-judgemental, caring thread during the often challenging time in life.

I'm a newbie - found friends after lockdown. Grateful to them for being so warm.

NotSpaghetti Wed 24-Sept-25 10:51:23

I have been thinking a lot about Pot Spaghetti
I thought a Spaghetti in the oven with a nice home made tomato sauce and non-meat "meatballs"
It would set a bit and slice a bit (like a tortilla). Ive had those sorts of baked pasta dishes before - sometimes offered in farmhouses in Italy

Suddenly hungry!
🤣

Grammaretto Wed 24-Sept-25 08:58:24

I think a real Cornish Pasty must be made in Cornwall. There are stalls at main railway stations which are called pasty shops, not Cornish I noticed.

Well done for your perseverance Kaimoana your knowledge is vast and entertaining as well as informative. I'll now always have a picture of miners with ponies hearing the vibrations of the sea, eating pasties deep underground.

One of our last trips together was Cornwall and DH wanted to visit the museum at Portkernow. It was fascinating though more about the TransAtlantic cables than mining or pasties.

Fingers crossed 🤞 for the chosen carer Not Spaghetti or pot Spaghetti if you prefer.
Good that you are getting around a bit more each day.

My second dressing fell off and I was told not to replace it unless there was
blood.

Your bubble&squeak was totally wrong Doodle as you know. Fried up leftover cabbage with potatoes, mashed for the bubble. Delicious but can't imagine seeing it on a menu.

Community lunch today I think unless I go to the Italian place where some of the yarners go.

It is sad about C. I met him about the same time as I met my BiL. Their house in Wimbledon was full of music and their mum was a great cook. He was a professional musician.
Yes he had been unwell for a couple of years but nothing specific.

NotSpaghetti Wed 24-Sept-25 05:04:15

Kaimoana
Thank you for your persistence! It is lovely to see you again.
I could be wrong but I do think there's truth in the "must be made in Cornwall" story

I think they were given "Protected Geographical Indication" (PGI) status in 2011/2012 by the European Union. Like champagne and some cheesees it would now be protected under UK law because we transferred a whole raft of these PGIs over at Brexit.

I'm trying to walk a bit further each day. I'm only walking along the road outside my house - but it's nice to have a marker and I added two more houses/gardens to my walk yesterday. 🩼🩼

Today I'm off to have my wound inspected by the practice nurse. 🤞

I am managing to shower occasionally as I have a super-duper dressing on my wound. I hope if it has another one put on it is also waterproof! 🛀
I wouldn't dare try the bath yet Naughtyneine - with or without assistance grin

Oh yes, and my mother-in-law now has the first of the carers that we actually got to "interview" over WhatsApp. I'm hoping she's better than some of the others. She seems competent and is friendly and respectful.
More crossed fingers here...
My mother-in-law's very protective cleaner, when asked about her yesterday, could only find the length of time she'd set the tumble dryer to criticise - so maybe we are onto a winner? grin

I hope everyone has a good day today

Kaimoana2 Tue 23-Sept-25 23:00:03

I’ve tried the speech to text apps NotS but they don’t translate accurately and while the results are hilarious, correcting them is just as laborious as trying to see my mistakes.
For instance, they pick the logical version such as “Pot Spaghetti’ rather than you name grin

Bubble & Squeak IS mashed potato and cabbage, usually from the day before but its an 'old school' recipe. As the Coca-Cola company used to say ‘accept no substitutes’. smile

I once read that “Cornish Pasty” weas protected by copyrigt (or whatever applies to food) so nothing which isn't made from the genuine ingredients can be called that.
But everyone seems to get away with all sorts of fillings.

A true Cornish Pasty is diced (not minced) beef, potato, onion, swede and liberal helping of s & p.
The pasty is assembled (short crust pastry only) with the raw ingredients and cooked slowly, as they once were in the big ranges.

Depending on where you live in Kernow, some recipes have half and half: savoury divided by a layer of pastry inside and then apple or jam.

The miner or other worker, ate straight through but that hearty crust is not there so miners with dirty hands could discard it. No man in his senses would discard a well-made butter crust! Especially with rats scurrying around. The pasties were often wrapped in a clean cloth or later, greaseproof paper and a hanky.

Some even allege that a true pasty can only be made in
Cornwall but that’s not true either, the ingredients are what matters. Many Cornish people have left for world destinations.
I was taught pasty making, and the falsehood of these tales by a true old Cornish lady whose husband had been a miner in the pre-mechnical days when it often took an hour or more to climb down all the ladders to the rock face.
Some tunnels went out a long way under the sea and although the men couldn’t hear the waves, they could feel the vibrations as they crashed above. Scary stuff when sea water is dripping down the walls around you.
They had pit ponies who lived down there and miners brough up 'the deposits' for their gardens.

It's taken me 90 minutes to write this - which means I am either very stubborn or just plin stupid grin

NotSpaghetti Tue 23-Sept-25 20:18:05

Kaimoana - is it possible to have one of those clever programmes that read to you and you speak your text I wonder?

It must be horribly frustrating with partial vision (almost certainly in the wrong place).

We do of course think of you often - and those of us who came late to the Lobstars feast know how very welcoming you were when we were new.
❤️

Doodle Tue 23-Sept-25 19:36:56

Cherry thank your for the rainbow. 🌈 nice to hear from you.
Kaimoana of course you’re missed. Always in our thoughts. Can understand the problems reading and writing but never for one second think we’re not here or thinking of you. You’re a founder member of our little group and we all care for you.
Grammaretto i wish k could be part of your U3A group listening to the story of your house, I bet it’s really interesting.
So sorry about your DBIL’s brother. Has he been ill long?
No I don’t think the film was a weepy except the very end where they showed a painting of Dame Maggie Smith.
Hope the dentist went ok.
I went to visit my cousin today and we went for lunch . The place was packed and we were sitting next to a group of 7 middle aged men who were obviously having a good time. We couldn’t hear ourselves think so after our lunch we left there and went home for coffee. I was a bit disappointed in that my lunch was nice but I’d ordered bubble and squeak. Where I come from, bubble and squeak is mash and cabbage fried with a crispy coating. What I got was a plate of mash with chopped carrots and the odd piece of green in it.
Pleased to get home as the journey is difficult and I got lost twice.
Early start tomorrow. Doing church coffee.

Grammaretto Tue 23-Sept-25 08:54:44

Ofcourse you are missed Kaimoana
We miss your wonderful stories but we worry that you are not well and unable to write.

It sounds like you have all the helpful gadgets so far invented! I picture you listening to audio books whilst knitting the slippers!

The weather has been very pleasant here. I hope it stays like this for my DB visit this w/end.

Thanks for explaining the story of the rescued pup, NotSpag Your DD has a big heart.

I had another busy day yesterday and managed to spend some time at register house researching my house. This partly to do with MM and partly because I'm to host a U3A group and tell them all about its history.

Here's a photo from the top of the steps of Register House yesterday.

I had a very pleasant lunch with the French potter and family. But then heard the sad news that my DBiLs' DB was dying.

I am pleased you enjoyed Downton Doodle. Is it a weepy?

I'm due at the Dentist soon so had better clean my teeth....

Kaimoana2 Mon 22-Sept-25 21:58:12

Well, if I wasn't teary before, I am now but for a happier reason. It never occured to me that I would be missed if I didn't post. You are a lovely lot smile flowers

CherryCezzy Mon 22-Sept-25 19:19:28

Keep going NotSpaghetti 🌻.

Take care of that nasty looking cut Naughtyneine.

I hope the tests are going well ixion

I hope your physio this morning was helpful Grammaretto.

I'm sending you a Monday rainbow 🌈 Doodle x

Doodle Mon 22-Sept-25 19:14:02

kaimoana so pleased to hear from you. We love and care for you so much. So sorry that things are so sad for you and your eyesight is worse. How you manage day to day I’ll never know.
Your friends here care deeply for you so will keep in touch some how, take care dear friend. Love and hugs. xx
Grammaretto what a busy day you had. Are you sure it was Apple juice and not cider you were making 🤣
Glad the piano has been moved into a more suitable place.
I went to watch the new Downton Abbey film and I enjoyed it so much. I haven’t been to the cinema for many years. Imagine my shock when I found my lovely padded seat reclined and had a cup holder and table attached to it.
Sorry your children are giving you a hard time with your plans. I doubt they can overrule your wishes though can they?
Notspaghetti the puppy looks lovely. Big feet though I expect it’s going to grow, Well done on the walking front. I really need to get out and walk more. Thank you for your kind thoughts, Today I’ll label movie Monday for a change.
Just read your story about where the puppy came from. How lovely she’s found a new home somewhere safe.

CherryCezzy Mon 22-Sept-25 19:10:29

Hello Kaimoana 💕. I'm so sorry that you that you are going through such an emotionally difficult time. We all care so much about you. I hope you continue to post when you can. I'm sending you copious heartfelt cwtches and my love X

NotSpaghetti Mon 22-Sept-25 09:09:23

She was found in a bombed out Ukrainian warehouse with a malnourished mum and her puppy siblings, Grammaretto.

The other puppies and mum were found homes in Ukraine. She was not found a home but was fostered in Ukraine and when still no home found, she was collected (by a UK family) with 20 or so other "no permanent home" dogs.

They journeyed through Poland and over to the UK and then went in groups to one of three families in the UK.
My daughter had sponsored her vet fees and travel costs and collected her from her most local "drop off point"

She was very tired and smelly after the journey but seems to have settled pretty well and,after a few smelly days decompressing, was happy in the bath!!

She's a bit like a long-legged smooth Jack Russell...
Definitely some terrier

Grammaretto Mon 22-Sept-25 08:21:33

So good to know you are with us Kaimoana
I wonder what the text reader will narrate!

So sorry that sad things keep happening.

The friend who has been staying has been told she has glaucoma which is a huge shock. She hasn't been aware of any symptoms but her mother had it and it is hereditary.

I'm on my way by early bus, with the workers, to a physio appointment in another town.
Then I said I'd meet my French potter friend for lunch. She is staying in Edinburgh with her wee boy.
She's not very well so couldn't face the journey out here.

Two of my DC are giving me a hard time about my building plans.
Perhaps I shouldn't have given them POA!!

Thanks for describing the dog NotSpaghetti but what I was really asking was how she had to be rescued? Perhaps you don't know the answer to that.

I hope you enjoy another walk today.
I hope NN has her wound attended
to and I hope my car can be fixed.

We certainly care about you Kaimoana Sending lots of ❤️

NotSpaghetti Mon 22-Sept-25 08:09:08

HELLO!
SO happy to see you - though very sorry about your terrible teary time
Please do pop in again when you are ready and able to do

With love ❤️

Kaimoana2 Mon 22-Sept-25 05:19:17

Hello folks,
Several reasons why I haven’t been popping by: some personal stuff which has made me thoroughly miserable and prone to tears and is still hanging about.

Then there are my eyes.
I have a special keyboard on my PC “KeysUsee” . Trouble is, I can’t.

I’m a touch typist, so can still write without seeing - but still make mistakes. hmm

It’s a myth that anyone with an eye problem just needs bigger text – if only that were true.
Bigger text, such as that on packets and tins and over 16pt, is totally impossible for me to decipher. As is anything less than 12pt.

As you will note from the picture, with AMD, only a small amount of peripheral vision is left.

I write in Word, then cut and paste but alas, what you guys write is mostly lost to me and although you made a great attempt to make your messaged bold, in the end that too made me exit stage left feeling guilty.

I’ll try to post when I can and I will re-download a screen reader to narrate what you write.

Thank you all for caring about me, it is very much appreciated.

NotSpaghetti Mon 22-Sept-25 03:29:10

NN what a horrible cut.
It's one thing after another.
I do hope you get it sorted soon!
I have to say, 7lbs overweight sounds fabulous to me! grin

Thanks for all my "get going" messages. I walked an extra two houses width today. We live on a road of detached and semi-detached properties so two houses is a reasonable distance to extend my range I think. Mr Spaghetti walked with me again and "kept an eye" on me.

Tomorrow we have the first of the care staff we actually selected for my mother-in-law so I'm apprehensive but hopeful.

Re the puppy. She's seven months and looks to be a smooth haired terrier cross of some sort - a look of a foxhound/American Rat Terrier but with more slender shapely legs. She's quite pretty. Her ears are pointy and brown but with a bit of a kink at the top so not so foxy. Mainly she's white but the ear colour floods brown/black over her eyes withthe colour extending down her nose and a large spot on her saddle. Oh here's a photo...

Anyway, I'm going to try to sleep now. I woke for painkillers and have had a trip to the bathroom and back so I've shaken some of the aches out a bit.

Grateful for your support everyone.

Doodle I know Mondays aren't likely to be marvellous - but I hope the day is at least a Manageable Monday. X

Grammaretto Sun 21-Sept-25 22:34:56

Ouch ouch Naughtyneine that looks a mess. I wouldn't know what to do but when I had that dog bite I had to have dressings and penicillin.

I did the Biobank day last year in Newcastle. I got them to put me up in a hotel as it was so far away. Wasn't it exhausting!! Then afterwards I had to wear a heart monitor for a week or so.

Do be careful.

I had a lovely day helping to make gallons of delicious apple juice at the community store, outside in the sunshine. We have a press and a macerator and got through tons of fruit. A pig farmer is taking the pulp.

MM came with his son to move the furniture around so the piano sort of fits in the room now. He'll come and tune it properly.

I must get up very early tomorrow to go to my physio appointment on the bus.

Let us know Doodle when you hear from Kaimoana Enjoy the film.

I went to watch the Sunday night film this evening but had to leave in the interval as I wasn't enjoying it at all.

Night night Lobstars 🌙

Doodle Sun 21-Sept-25 19:42:58

Grammaretto so glad you’re having a lovely visit with your friend.
Next weekend will be exciting having the family over from Denmark. (Did I tell you my dear SIL was Danish)
Your lady on the bus sounds to me like someone who is struggling to cope and therefore fills her days with something to do. That’s what I’m like but I do try and vary it a bit. Couldn’t cope with 6 days of yoga 🤣
Notspaghetti glad you got out for a bit. Take it easy but nice to have some fresh air I imagine. What sort of dog is the new rescue?
Ixion i hâte toothache. Nothing seems to help. Have you tried the usual painkillers, brandy. bonjella ? Hope you get to the dentist soon.
NN yes I’m in touch with Kaimoana will let you know when I hear from her.
Ouch that looks nasty. I have similar cuts. My skin like yours is really thin. I took a chunk out of my arm a few months ago by walking into a door latch. I try and lay the skin back if possible them out a dressing on it for a few days till it stops bleeding (I also use those stick on skin sutures if necessary. When it’s stopped bleeding I just let it dry and then cove so I don’t knock the scab as it forms. Hope yours heals soon
Lovely day in church today. Out to the cinema tomorrow for the first time in years. Going to see the Downton Abbey film

ixion Sun 21-Sept-25 18:58:29

Blimey NN, that's a mess.
Looks more like a shearing injury, might respond better to professionally managed Jelonet or other paraffin- based dressing. I'm not sure how suturing would hold on such fragile skin anyway.

Mr I has had a couple of similar injuries on his shin, the first was deep and took forever to heal, recently he has a second dressed and supervised prontissimo and it is healed with far less pan.

Can you send a photo to your surgery requesting a Practice Nurse referral?
It's a b****che, sure, but the best way to get it sorted.

HTH
😍

Naughtyneine Sun 21-Sept-25 18:24:34

Ooh Ixion.
.I hope you've got some pain killers handy and a hot pad too. I hope it subsides soon. We stayed in Henrietta MoHo last night as we were visiting friends in Wiltshire. They have been my friends for over 40 years and they
live in a very upmarket retirement village and he was due to give me away but she is very frail and they couldn't travel. Beforehand I had a visit to the Bio Bank in Bristol having been selected to be scanned as part of their research. Wow what a full on 4 hours...brain scan ( there is one) heart and stomach ( lots of holding your breath) a full Dexa scan...bloods taken, ECG..height , weight then a 200 question lifestyle questionnaire. Just as I thought my head was going to explode they said the last part was a cognitive test....puzzles,memory,problem solving ....I reeled out of the building vowing that a large bar of Cadburys Dairy Milk was falling into my lap very soon. They give you a very limited print out of some of your vital stuff....BMI, fat index(😱)...etc etc...all was good until I got to the bit that said 7lbs over the recommended weight. The chocolate stayed on the shelf. This morning 2 very excited doggies spied a cat nonchalantly strolling past Henrietta and scrambled across me to get to the door sadly taking a chunk of my leg with them. I have no idea why my skin is so thin but I peel like a peach. DH came to help and I gave him one of my looks that said no way are you going to say this needs stitching. I did the same when I fell last year and broke my knee cap and nose, I told him to help me onto the decking and get me a glass of wine and all would be fine. 4 days in hospital later I had to eat my words. I'm really hoping I won't have to again. Those of you with a nervous disposition don't look at the picture attached.. Anyone with medical training please back me up. I'm trying the glass of wine cure all as I type.
Does anyone correspond wth Kaimoana via proper e mail? I wonder if the heart situation has caused her a problem do the leaves have affect side effects. I do hope she is ok.

Grammaretto Sun 21-Sept-25 09:58:24

Ouch! ixion. Toothache is so horrible. I have the dentist on Tuesday so have been vigorously cleaning my teeth recently. There are fewer nowadays.

Well done on your walk NotSpaghetti 👏 . How was it?What's the story of the rescue dog?

It's crisp and cold today. I may go out and do something or maybe stay in and prepare for my next visitors invasion .
DB, SiL, my niece, her DH plus the 2 bairns are coming next weekend from Denmark.

The woman I met on the bus back from Edinburgh yesterday, someone I knew quite well when our girls were small, agreed with my children that I shouldn't attempt to build a house having experience of a sister who did and it was the most stressful thing imaginable.
Then I asked her how she spent her days now that she's widowed and retired. She goes to 6 different yoga classes in 6 different towns 6 days a week. She lives in the countryside and drives everywhere. She had parked near mine, on the street.
To me, her life sounds stressful in a different way. Perhaps she's very fit 🧘‍♀️ and chilled.

I wish we had news of Kaimoana

.

ixion Sun 21-Sept-25 09:36:42

Woke to glorious autumn sunshine here after yesterday's incessant rain.
Not that that is much compensation as I continue with the toothache from Hell.
Why do all these things kick off at weekends?

Back when I can concentrate again!

NotSpaghetti Sat 20-Sept-25 23:29:23

Had a brief visit from my daughter and her nearly new rescue dog.
Very timid but apparently warming up at home.

Just a few months old.
Quite pretty.

NotSpaghetti Sat 20-Sept-25 23:27:07

Really, really exhausted today. Thank you for thinking of me.

Went for a "walk" - just along the road but quite a way compared to just in the house and drive.
Now I'm horribly achey.

But 🤞 I'm going to sleep the aches off.

Grammaretto Sat 20-Sept-25 23:04:49

Ooh I look forward to seeing your knitting project Doodle

I doubt bold would make a difference to Kaimoana as she could enlarge the words on her screen.
I think she may be poorly. I hope not but she would normally write even if brief.

How is your recovery going NotSpaghetti? well I hope.
And NN how are your pain levels?
I hope you are not suffering too much.

It's been lovely having my friend staying. We have good chats. Tomorrow she'll be seeing her DS who live in Edinburgh and she leaves
on Monday. 😔

Night night 🌙 Lobstars xx

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