*This will be all jumbled up but so many things to comment on...
Kaimoana...A Happy Belated Birthday and a real hope that this time next year for your big 80.. You will be settled somewhere much more suited to your needs and that life is kinder to you.
Is it too late to claim the gift? Could your son come and take you and help you pick up staple cupboard supplies and any other bits that might make life easier for you going forward. Have you told him about the gift?;
I'm not sure I know but do you belong to any church? I know it wouldn't be possible for you to physically attend regularly but I wondered if you did if there was a group that specifically help other parishioners in need.
In the Catholic church the St Vincent de Paul do a lot for people in your situation. It would be lovely if there was someone you could call on.
Doodle.. How lovely a lunch with your boys, that must have eased all aches and pains just being with them.
Grammaretto... Well done to your DD in managing to complete her assignment...I hope she's feeling stronger now. I can't be sick, some sort of reflex that doesn't work properly but ooh the times I wished I could...4 pregnancies with girls to start with ( more progesterone with girls apparently means more sickness).
How lovely to receive a handmade gift for a birthday, that makes it even more special. How wonderful it would be if we could all sit around your fire with soup and chatter the night away.. I'm there now in my head.
Your poor friend getting off the bus too soon, what a shame the driver didn't check which stop she wanted, it sounds terrifying having to knock on someone's door in the middle of nowhere... That said where we live now I would feel safe doing that if I had to....
Ixion.... I'm so sorry Barney is still AWOL.. Did something spook him, nearly daily there is an appeal for a missing cat on Nextdoor and nearly every time they have reappeared. I'm hoping it's going to be the same for him too.
Notspag..the funeral sounds lovely ( if a funeral can be lovely) the limbo time in between dying and the funeral is very hard and it sounds like your darling man wanted everything to be right for his ( and yours) beloved Mother as did you. Hopefully you can now both relax a little before any paperwork/ property needs attention.
I'm now day 5 post-op. The whole thing seems surreal now. We arrived at 12 noon as requested and the receptionist said Oh Thank Goodness I can book you as arrived which I thought was a bit weird and then asked us to sit in a very hastily prepared waiting area which consisted of 3 screens assembled in a sort of square...I couldn't really see the need for this as the reception area was big and airy , it turns out that it had been assembled just for me.
She then went off and opened a door to another office and people began to pour out of it...I was esconced in a small office and at one point there 5 people in there waiting to talk to me in turn. I was quite overwhelmed to be honest and tried hard to concentrate on what each person was saying but was so relieved that from what the 2 consultants were saying the special scans and x rays had shown there was a problem and their intention was to remove all previous replacement parts ( including the very long stem down through my femur) and redo it all.
I was terrified of coming round in agony like last time where the incorrect information has been recorded on my notes stating I had had an epidural ( with pain relief inserted post op) where in fact I had had a GA and no pain relief had been administered prior to waking me up.
The anaesthetist this time was kindness itself and reassured me that he would make sure I was pain free, he held my hand and said he would be checking me every step of the way.
The lady who seemed to be the operation co ordinator asked me if I wanted to be resuscitated if something went wrong...that threw me a bit and I said yes please, she then followed it up with if the situation is that there is no hope do you want your life support switched off?
I was wishing at this point that they still gave strong pre meds before ops. I said I would have to ask DH but apparently I needed to answer there and then she opted for what she said most people went for....if nothing more to be done then yes.
From then on everything was quick, professional and kind.... overwhelmingly kind.
All of the above was because I was the first to be operated on using this newly accredited system ( for this hospital) This wasn't where the original surgery was performed, that was in Epsom in Surrey and they were going to try and rectify what had been done wrong.
As it turned out the original cup had been set at neutral and not forward as it should have been... Each movement it scraped along the stem they had inserted and was wearing it down. No wonder it b****y hurt.
I was euphoric the next morning when the consultant visited and told me what they'd found. I said I thought hugging a consultant was probably inappropriate but he said yes of course you can and gave me a huge hug and said it's lovely to see you smiling again. What a wonderful thing to say.
Days 3 and 4 have been challenging...on days 1 and 2 I was on Oramorph every 2 hours but I couldn't stop sleeping ( 18 hours a day) and hallucinating...I even saw some Lobstars dressed in sparkly crop tops and hot pants doing a sort of Haka round my bed...I can't be sure but I think one of them had a costume malfunction and had to be surgically cut out of her top to restore circulation.
I decided to stop the Oramorph and ooooh the pain has well and truly crept ( marched) in for sure and stupid things like the bruising on my wrists and arms hurt too. DH is like a fish out of water...my own fault I suppose for giving off this aura of capability and years of having to get on and do it ( pre DH). I don't think men come pre programmed re domesticity and whilst some may embrace it others have to be led gently to the waters edge and allowed time to paddle....🤣
I feel we are at the stage where his water wings might be coming off any time soon. ( Either that or he is going to get a shove from behind into the next big wave!!!!!).
Oh and I forgot to say.... You do get pre meds..it was 2 paracetamol..an anti sickness tablet and 2 tablets to relieve constipation ( slow release Thank God )*
), maybe that will help.
What do you find yourself avoiding more as you get older?
It’s been a while so I will start us off…….whats for supper and why?
