Seeing doctor about my binge eating

You have spoken to your DD and DH so they are aware, which is a big step on the way (not hiding away).

The comment is true nonetheless. Can the NHS really be expected to finance therapy for every "mental health disorder"?

Why not try another tack. You don't appear to need to lose weight. Why not just enjoy the your binges? Treat yourself, say, every Saturday? Probably isn't doing you any harm. I would, if I didn't need to keep an eye on my weight. Or have other health issues.

Enjoy it while you can. After the menopause you will probably get fat anyway.

Oh Jing ! you are all heart

I would enjoy it, if I could get away with it. It's a bugger knowing you need to watch your weight all the time. As often we do have to, after menopause.

It's something that I suffered from for most of my adult life; I think that it started after going on my first diet when I was @ 16. Most binge eating would happen late at night when I was tired. And I also [when I had hormones] eventually realised that, at certain times of the month my body seemed to crave carbohydrates. It also seemed to be linked with the dieting idea that certain foods were 'bad' and it almost seemed as if I was punishing myself in some way. Difficult for anyone to understand who has never suffered from it. I tend not to eat a lot but, at the same time don't seem to have the trigger mechanism that tells me to stop eating when I'm full. I have been known to eat vast quantities of ice cream or crisps; it's as if, having broken my diet I have to eat as much as possible. I still can't keep chocolate etc in the house. Don't really suffer from it in the same way now but it was a real problem for many years.

I used to find that PMT = an urge for sweet carbohydrates and chocolate
I don't know why.

jing I find your comments very hard to take and bordering on offensive. You clearly don't understand and I don't know if you followed any of the links to become better informed, but one of the points about bingeing is you don't enjoy it. You're disgusted with yourself and shame is a huge part of the problem, which is why it's often done in secret. It's self destructive behaviour. And in this day and age are you seriously suggesting mental health problems are secondary to physical health problems? That's what it sounds like.

I don't think that.

And I find your post very offensive.

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I agree wilmaknickersfit

I agree with you too Wilma.

Jing , you are being so insensitive! So many eating disorders are emotional. But we mustn't judge!

jing you seem determined to believe bingeing is about pigging out on junk food. It's not and if you bothered to read up on the subject instead of continuing to be the lone voice dismissing the OP's concern, you would know this. You've suggested the OP pay for therapy instead of seeking help from the NHS. You've made a sarky comment about self control becoming easier with practice. You've questioned the use of the NHS for 'every mental health disorder'. You've suggested the OP try bingeing just on a Saturday. You've said you don't think the OP can expect her GP to give her time and that CBT is only for people with real mental health problems. You even called the OP ridiculously greedy. I'll stop there as I have made my point. You don't understand and that's okay, but to continue being rude and offensive won't change anything and could well stop others posting.

Nothing sarcastic about my comment about self control becoming easier with practice. It's a fact.

I have made some perfectly reasonable suggestions on this thread.

But I'm truly bored with it now.

I don't usually comment but I have been so shocked by jbfs comments I felt I had to put my feelings forward - the remarks made go beyond offensive, they verge on abusive.

I certainly know how the OP feels and my experience is (1) if the food is not in the cupboards I WILL go out and buy it (although I live in the middle of town, near enough, so appreciate that does not apply to everyone) but more importantly (and I really don't feel this comes over strongly enough even in the supportive posts) (2) you DO NOT enjoy that food. I think the use of expressions like 'craving' and 'pigging out' give the wrong impression. You don't want that food in any real sense, there is no satisfaction in eating it, you just cannot help yourself and cannot stop.

I did wonder whether jbf would offer similar advise to an anorexic - sadly, I suspect she might.

Yet you keep commenting...

Taht was for jings

That

Antj you don't say what you weigh just that you're 12-14 and 5'6" - if you're truly a UK 12-14 that makes you around 10 to 11 stone? (Vanity sizing by stores notwithstanding!)

I'm currently 10 stone and 5'2 and a half - and depending on label I'm size 12/14.

So whatever you're eating it's not having a detrimental affect on your weight. Your overall intake must be within normal limits because you're not overweight. Maybe you're not eating proper meals and then need to 'catch-up' and have the urge to binge.

I weigh nearly 13 st. And the binges even happen after a proper meal. This is not about satisfying my appetite but about eating as if all food in the world will run out tomorrow.

"yet you keep commenting"

I'm defending myself!

13 stone? And size 12-14?

So you are overweight?

Drip feeding information?