Calorie conundrum

PamelaJI: Many years ago I sent away for a free book on losing weight, written by a doctor (from Bristol I think) and flagged up in the Daily Telegraph. It was very sensible and one section dealt with self control. Some people appearing on TV say they have tried everything and cannot lose weight - the booklet used the phrase 'there were no fat people in the concentration camps' to emphasise that one can lose weight (unless there is a physical, medical condition) by control over one's eating.

"trying everything" = sticking to nothing.

yo yo ing makes you fat

We went to dinner at friends of my husbands. They are Russian. I left a little on my plate as I was full. The next day they rang my husband and asked what was wrong with the food as I didn't eat it all. I was mortified as it must have offended them that I didn't eat all their food. Just a different culture.

Grangmama- thanks, that was what I trying to say. Unfortunately these posts don’t convey any tone of voice so sometimes some people get the wrong impression.

Jane43 would your DH consider starting a blog? I have 2 male friends, both in their 60s who have recently been diagnosed with diabetes and are really struggling with their eating. One is married to a nurse - also my friend - but he won’t listen to her advice. Their daughter, also a nurse, is staying with them at the moment and he says she gives contradictory dietary advice, eg bananas - friend or foe? I think both of them would respond to an online account of someone who is like them, has been there, done that and is currently wearing the T shirt, metaphorically at least! Since he’s making meticulous notes any way, these could become part of the blog.

I don't eat big meals because I don't feel like it. When in SE Asia I often leave food on my plate cause I just can't eat it all and I am often asked "you no like" when I reply I am full they bag it up for me to take home. Cold curry and rice is not nice.

I’m sure no one means to be flippant about those starved in concentration camps in Germany during WW2 or more recently in Bosnia.

The point they are trying to make is valid however. This idea that Baggs flagged up, sceptically I believe, is a load of rubbish. I’ve already tried to make thar point subtly but it appears that unless one says it quite brutally no one pays attention.

All I hear are excuses for overeating.

And if I can clarify the term overeating I mean eating more than you, as an individual need to maintain your weight.

So, life’s not fair. Some people can eat more than others and not put on weight. Others need to be more frugal. It’s quite simple - it’s what your body needs. Not the person sitting next to you, not your best friends, YOU

so true OldMeg!

Agree entirely OldMeg