I was lucky enough to pass for the grammar school in the 1950s. Both my parents worked in factories, had left school at 14 themselves and we lived in a council house on the wrong side of town. My parents were so proud of me, and I remember they had to get a loan from the Prudential to pay for the uniform (£30 was obviously too much to just cough up out of their wages). Now you can pick up basic white polo style shirts for £1.99!
I had a fantastic education and, more importantly, it gave me a love of learning throughout life- I am now a successful, committed pub quizzer - and I ended up training as a teacher, but could have chosen any career really on the arts side. Now I live in a lovely, expensive area of the UK and own my property outright. I don't feel I could have achieved that as easily without my grammar school background. My husband was also from the same background and felt we had been given a wonderful opportunity. We were both the first of our families to ever obtain qualifications and enter a profession.
In my town, there was also a Comprehensive school and a Technical College as well as several Secondary Moderns. My dad said there was no way I was going to the local secondary modern as it was in such a bad area catchment area - we couldn't chose where we lived- and said that he was willing to work two jobs to send me to a private school but, luckily, he didn't need to do that! He thought education was so important, and that it was the way out of the working class, council house rut that his ancestors had found themselves trapped in.
Just because not all children are clever enough to go to a grammar school or would benefit from that type of education, it shouldn't mean the brightest children in this country should be prevented from going. My BinLs both went into manual trades (one from a secondary modern background, the other from a comprehensive) and actually did very well too as they have both set up their businesses, but neither of them would ever open a book for pleasure or go on a 'cultural' type holiday. That doesn't make them bad or lesser people, but I feel their attitudes have shaped by their schooling, which they saw as something to be endured rather than enjoyed!
It really annoys me when some people say they don't approve of selection or private education but then they, themselves, chose to live on a nice private housing estate; that's what I call being a hypocrite. It is a socialist mentality which thinks anything elitist must be bad However if they won the lottery, I think the majority would buy some swanky house and send their children to private schools!!