hugshelp sorry that you're not feeling too well. Knowing that you are with us in spirit says as much, and sometimes more than words ever can.
I don't know if it is ever possible to get over the hurt and the anger, but I can see that perhaps anger may be easier to get over than the hurt Dolcelatte.
This is going to sound silly but try not to think about the hurt and anger. You'll experience those emotions without thinking about if and when you're going to experience them and when you do, think of them as a wave. You can usually see it coming toward you so when it comes, let it wash over you. Accept it, don't try to fight it because you can't and don't try to run away from it because you can't do that either.
It will leave you soaked but unharmed. That's what I used to do and it helped me so maybe it will help you too.
I don't know if you'll ever be able to reconcile with what's already happened, only time will tell and it'll take time for you to get to know your GD and the new baby, time to feel safe with your D and time to get over to a greater or lesser extent, what's happened.
Your DH is right IMO things do seem to be moving in the right direction, your D's irrational behaviour isn't your fault.
What did you see at the cinema? I was thinking I might be able to persuade Mr. S. to go and see 'Downton Abbey' but I don't think my powers of persuasion are that good.
The majority of Israeli Jews do not want to occupy Gaza.
Recommendations please, for a stopover on the way to Loch Tay