I think it depends.
I'm estranged from both of my parents for very different reasons.
My father's wife (stepmother) was abusive to my brother when he was little. I had nothing to do with dad for a while because of that. I tried a bit later to reestablish contact but... couldn't keep it up. Father and step mother are so disfunctional I just didn't want them in my life.
My mother is a totally different matter. Our estrangement is recent and relates to my grandson. I worship my GS and will not have anyone around me (or him) who does not see him as a gift and a blessing. The break was initiated by acts caused by my sister in law but supported by my mother.
However, I am very very sad about the break with my mum. It isn't as if we had a great relationship BUT she's my mum.
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