A few years ago, there was a documentary film about ACE's and childhood adversity that went around the alternative cinema circuit.
It was called Resilience and was made by James Redford, the son of Robert Redford. Here's a link to a review of the film which makes the content clear: www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/apr/29/how-bad-parenting-can-knock-20-years-off-your-life
I'm not sure whether/where the film is still available but this is the official website kpjrfilms.co/resilience/
The film made clear the public health research linking chronic disease in later life to adverse childhood experiences. The science is clear, even if you think you're fine, what happened may appear in illness. There is a fascinating book I saw shared on here the other day, The Body Keeps the Score by B van der Kolk which sets out why. Here's a summary conscioused.org/books/the-body-keeps-the-score-bessel-van-der-kolk-review-summary
Agnurse's posts on page 2 are helpful. I believe there is now a programme in US schools intended to help children build resilience which focuses on helping them to talk about difficulties in their lives (parents divorcing, domestic violence, deaths, bullying etc) and to be heard by various means such as art or words or play. I think the effects of these things on children are vastly underestimated. Although I partly agree that surviving these things may make you stronger, I also hear an echo of 'my parents beat me and it never did me any harm' and then those same people beat their children or send them to schools where they get beaten!