TRIGGER WARNING
I'm still allowing my mum to ring (don't know why, have to block her, she destroys me for the whole day).
Yesterday she said it. I'm using the grandchildren as weapons. Where on earth does she get this idea from? She knows how much they have hurt us but whenever I try to talk to her she just changes what happened, or attacks me and says I'm not perfect.
They also just constantly ask for the kids alone. That is what they want first step to be. I'm hoping that one day she'll have an epiphany and realise how horrible they are (lol). Why is this using the grandchildren as weapons such a common saying. I've seen examples of this maybe a handful of times, most of the time it's parents protecting themselves or their kids.
I'm using the grandchildren as weapons. Here are the REAL reasons why they aren't allowed to see the kids (TRIGGER WARNING):
- The physical punishment used on my older brothers. Being held against the wall, their hair pulled and screamed at
- Mum grabbing the feather duster screaming and threatening to beat them with it
- Mum kicking the crap out of the washing machine because she was angry in front of us (we were very young)
- Dad repeatedly asking me to watch porn as a teenager
- Dad talking about watching a video of minor being raped (he called it a 12-year-old girl having sex)
- Denial of pain medication. I was always given less than minimum dose and if I got myself more, I was ridiculed as being weak
- Dad constantly having his hands down his pants in front of us kids.
- Pornography in easy view all over the house (screensaver on computer, digital photo frame)
- The cover up of my sexual abuse and continuing to allow me to be abused (continuing to leave me unsupervised with him)
- Disagreeing with Ventolin. Saying they don’t agree with it when my 4 year old has bad asthma
- Call giving painkillers to kids as drugging them
- Not listening or respecting anything at all. Giving newborn old formula and refusing to stop. Dad walked away from me shaking his head, rolling his eyes and refused to give me newborn
- Being nasty any time I tried to say anything. I asked my dad not to give 12 month old hot dogs every day. He told me I was full of s**t and gave me the silent treatment
- Ignoring carseat safety. Kids constantly incorrectly buckled in, safety buckle removed from carseat because dad didn’t like it. Constantly insulting me about seatbelt by saying ‘mummy just wants to strangle you. Poor thing’
- Constant denying son’s special needs. Arguing with me in public. Dad raising his voice at son to go down the slide, I tell him that he doesn’t understand and dad says he understands everything, he just chooses to ignore.
- Constantly using slurs ie N**ger, retard, backwards, mongoloid, subby, p**fter
- Giving the boys the silent treatment. Ignored oldest boy on his birthday because he was angry.
- Dad abusing and kicking animals in front of us frequently (usually just because he's in a bad mood)
Sorry I'm just SO angry at being accused of using my kids as weapons