The greatest failure.

I'm sorry to hear you say that LeeElizabeth.

What standards are you judging yourself by?

We all fail at parenting at times.

Even when we feel we have done our best, the situation changes and turns out differently down the road.

The truth is, if your examining your past parenting skills now, it shows you must have given it some thought then.

That's all we can ask of another human being. To try our best.

You sound down.

All the best.

My greatest failure...thinking that I could ever be a good parent.

I didn't request my post he deleted because I said something mean-

I agree, length doesn't mean that it's lacking-

Have you not grown out of "I know you are but what am I?" type behaviour Smileless2012?

Yes it is but never mind, maybe you'll think of something to respond with later.

Empty response

Length doesn't denote quality I agree neither does it mean that quality in the relationship is lacking either.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

That sounds lovely merlotgran enjoy your virtual party.

Thank you for the anniversary good wishes. We're having a bit of a virtual party here with friends from the Isle of Wight joining in as it's where we were married. This is when good old facebook saves the day!

My three bridesmaids are sending daft messages and remembering good times.

I agree that length doesn't denote quality-

To see where "we" are would involve shared effort, to lean into learning rather than knowing in order to get it right collectively-

The attachment is from Brene Brown-

A good suggestion 52bright and I would add not judging others because what they say doesn't correspond with your personal beliefs or experience.

Thank you Chewbacca ...45 years here. Some of them far from perfect but toleration on both sides has seen us through so far.
Life is a learning curve Starblaze. Have you perfectly learned all that you list in your original post? Personally 1'm still learning. My own long life experience suggests that you should maybe add tolerance and forgiveness to your list.

Sadly, there are many many partners and children stuck in lock down with abusive and sometimes dangerous individuals right now. Abusive people do not deserve kindness in any situation and hard conversations need to be had about it.

Anything seen or heard can still be reported to authorities. It still amazes me how many ignore the signs of abuse.

Aww that's lovely Chewbacca just what we need at this time, kindness.

I find that hard to believe personally Smileless2012 but it obviously helps you.

Many Congratulations to all of you who have enjoyed long and (on the whole) happy marriages. ??? to you all.

And what was once a long term healthy relationship between close family, can be lost due to the presence of someone outside of that relationship.

This post does focus on those who have lost what should have been long term healthy relationships between close family.

We are in Estrangement after all

Length does not always show health I am afraid, as with the poor murdered pensioner in the news today killed by a long term abusive husband. All have not learned these lessons.

I am glad for those who do have healthy relationships.

Happy Wedding Anniversary Merlotgran wishing you a continued long and happy life together ?
I agree, I think you’ve got your head around it.

We’re doing ok here too, at 44years ...

Not as long as you EllanVannin and merlotgran but fast approaching our 40th so yes, I think we've got the hang of it too.

Congratulations on your 52nd Wedding Anniversary merlotgran

52 years today. I think we've got the hang of it now.

However, do look where we are.