Starblaze
Same with my sister.
However, it was meant to fail from the beginning.
My parents made sure we were never true sisters. We were raised to compete for whom "was the best daughter, who loved them the most"
My sister is also the total opposite , in appearance, personality, likes, etc. She is not a person I would have picked as a friend or acquaintance. Way too many incompatibilities.
She knows how cuckoo my parents are and agrees with me they are mentally unstanble
However, she chooses to mimic their behaviour and say "this is how they are, what can I do"
She chose to become their flying monkey and golden child.
It hurts but it is what it is. I made peace with it.
The funny thing is that as soon as my sister cut me off, my narc parents started emailing me again, a decade after I cut them off. Same old same old guilt trips and how I am abusing my kids by denying them the love of grandparents, aunt and cousins and a relationship with them.
In their mind, it is their right. Nothing will convince them otherwise