Your money or your grandsons

I think I’ll swerve this thread.
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How is the relationship with your son? Was anything promised to him?
There has to be a lot of background information that can help give better advice

Do not give in to blackmail.
do not sign over your home
If you do, you'll find the goalposts move yet again.

Focus on the statement JGran made, rather than criticise Phoenix for her well meant enquiry as to whether JGran is ok.
My view is the same as others, this is outrageous behaviour from a son. What a dreadful way to behave. Good link from Starblaze. See a solicitor, do not sign over your home

Yes that's what it seems like to me Callistemon concern for JGran

smoothie

Phoenix I’m sure this was unintentional but your reply is phrased and reads like an order with a ‘please’ tacked on the front. JGran had only been gone a mere two hours and twenty or so minutes when you wrote your comment, it doesn’t appear that JGran is in any immediate danger..she likely has other things to do along with all that she’s going through right now. More pressure is the last thing she needs and who knows she may not want to say anymore than she has, and that’s okay. Give her some time.

It sounds like someone who is concerned that the OP is all right to me smoothie

You'd think, though, that if someone is so distressed, they'd be anxiously waiting for replies.

Are you ok JGran?

Phoenix I’m sure this was unintentional but your reply is phrased and reads like an order with a ‘please’ tacked on the front. JGran had only been gone a mere two hours and twenty or so minutes when you wrote your comment, it doesn’t appear that JGran is in any immediate danger..she likely has other things to do along with all that she’s going through right now. More pressure is the last thing she needs and who knows she may not want to say anymore than she has, and that’s okay. Give her some time.

So sorry you have been ill Jgran, hope you are now recovering.
As for your sons behaviour I agree with everyone else that you should definitely not do as he demands. Suggest you get some legal advice and do not be persuaded.
Do you have other family or good friends who you can speak to?

Good advice on here I can only add what disgraceful behaviour from a son. He will THINK about letting you see him. Tell him to get lost and write him out of your will. Tell him you will leave it to a charity for abused women

Good grief, don’t give him anything. What’s happened to make him like this? Is there a story to tell? Do you have other children? A husband? Presumably you’ve talked, and you’ve had cancer as well. ?.We don’t really know very much. Sounds like you need to sort your Will fast.

JGran please come back and respond to the advice you have been given, people are concerned.

I can only echo what others have said; no, no, no. And I'm truly sorry that your son has demonstrated how vile a human being can be.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Sorry to hear this JGran I agree with everyone else, even though he is your son you clearly cannot trust him. Don't agree to his demands as he will renege on his promise, which was only to consider things. I'm sad for you as it means being cut off from your grandsons. Bear in mind this would still probably happen if you agreed.

Do not sign anything. He sounds truly obnoxious - seek legal advice ASAP. He appears to be attempting to blackmail you, using the grandchildren as a weapon. Disgraceful.

this is coercive control, which is an offence. in uk.
report to police.
you may need protection.
good luck.

Agree with what everyone else has said JGran. The ultimate in using children as weapons; disgraceful.

See a solicitor, cut him out of your will and leave a note with your solicitor to be given to your grandchildren on your death; detail what a piece of sh*t their Father is, and why they have not been able to spend time with their grandmother. How awful for you. Do you have any other family that you could tell about this? Others need to know what he is like and why he is out of your will. If you don't have other family, you must sort out your will asap or he will get your house and estate anyway.

Are you a new poster, JGran?
If so welcome and I hope you find the help you so clearly need.

I think that you should contact "Hourglass" asap as Starblaze says. You need advice and support with this.

What a nasty piece of work, even if you were daft enough to do this, which I sincerely hope you’re not, he’ll use this threat again and again.
We don’t know the whole situation, age of GS’s, whereabouts and your relationship with them, or their mother.
Heed the words of other posters and my thoughts are with you.

Starblaze

I think you need some professional support with this Jgran

Call Hourglass, it's a helpline for elder abuse

0808 808 8141

I agree, what a dreadful man your son is! Personally, I would be tempted to cut him out of the will too. Your home is your security, he should be looking after you and supporting you in your advancing years not pressuring you and blackmailing you.

You have my sympathy.
Is he your only family?

I would advise you to get legal advice, have your money put in a trust for you grandsons so that only they, when they are old enough, can use it, so he can never touch it.