Domestic Violence from kids to parents

Please read it properly MrsWarren ( rolls eyes )

I said-----It's NOT something that CAN'T be solved, even without medication. Meaning that it CAN be solved with medication.

Sheesh----you are hard work.

how is saying It's not something that can't be solved, even without medication writing someone off.

Evan was saying it can be solved, "even without medication".

Indeed we do all make mistakes Starblaze, as you know; but not normally repeating the same mistake on the same subject.

Different mistakes, Chewbacca.

As I said, I didn’t see your “No” amongst the italics last night. It was difficult to see. And double negatives, well, there is a reason they are not used.

Anyway, does it really matter?

MrsWarren has the problem, not I !

Oh my goodness, let's not pile on MrsWarren please it's very uncomfortable to read.

We all make mistakes and both of those were easy ones and already addressed

Seeking clarification for what someone's posted isn't piling on.

EllanVannin

Please read it properly MrsWarren ( rolls eyes )

I said-----It's NOT something that CAN'T be solved, even without medication. Meaning that it CAN be solved with medication.

Sheesh----you are hard work.

I was about to apologise to you for misunderstanding what you said.

But then I seen this.

So, please use correct grammar in future to avoid such confusion.

Well if you aren't piling on, let's let it go shall we?

@EllanVannin, you know what, I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have said that to you. That was childish.

Starblaze

Well if you aren't piling on, let's let it go shall we?

Aw, Starblaze, that’s a really decent thing of you to say.

But if anyone else has something to say about it, it’s alright.

I mean, I clearly didn’t see the double negative - I don’t know what clarification/penance is needed?

Starblaze

Well if you aren't piling on, let's let it go shall we?

Starblaze, thank you, that’s really decent of you.

Smileless2012

Seeking clarification for what someone's posted isn't piling on.

I clearly didn’t see the double negative - I’m not sure what clarification/penance is required?

I accept your apology MrsWarren.

Is Mr Johnsons address to Parliament and later to the nation getting to people? Let's all sing the song from Frozen and let it go

I posted about seeking clarification MrsWarren. I didn't mention penance.

I too am very passionate about child protection and understanding what creates dysfunctional adults...

The child phase of it all though is very distressing and upsetting and reacting to that does not make a bad person

EllanVannin

I accept your apology MrsWarren.

Thank you. That was mean spirited of me.

Iam64 what time is it?

I rarely watch the news these days because life is dark enough but try and see the big addresses

There might be some genetic influence but the home environment is by far the biggest factor in child behavior. Surprise, surprise if a child grows up in a violent household he will think that is normal behavior, moreover some will probably have PTSD as a consequence and never have a normal life.

Starblaze

I too am very passionate about child protection and understanding what creates dysfunctional adults...

The child phase of it all though is very distressing and upsetting and reacting to that does not make a bad person

Dr Robert Block says “Adverse childhood experiences are the single greatest unaddressed public health threat facing our nation today.”

Nothing could be more true.

Iam64

Is Mr Johnsons address to Parliament and later to the nation getting to people? Let's all sing the song from Frozen and let it go

Ha! My son loves Frozen and is dressing up as Elsa this Halloween!

www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/targeted-parenting/202010/the-3-letter-words-child-psychologists-love

I think this high-lights what was discussed about calling a child "nasty and naughty" and calling their behavior that...

Holyhannah

I love the Power of Yet!

Starblaze -- It certainly shows why shoving a child into a 'box'/labeling them something inherently negative is an adult issue and not the child's. By doing so you are "writing the child off"/suggesting no change is possible and children are by growth changing all the time. If the child is developing in the 'wrong direction' is it ALL their fault or do the adults guiding them have some role/part in their development?

I suspect the point about naming the behaviour, rather than labelling the child 'nasty/naughty' has been well made on this thread. I hope the grandmother who told that story doesn't feel unable to post anymore because she feels people have been to coin a phrase 'piling on'. To be shocked as a grandmother, by your much loved 7 year old granddaughter shouting at you to 'f* off" isn't really surprising. Sometimes when surprised, we react badly.
I'm very clear that we should never label the child, we can challenge the behaviour without giving a child the message that they are bad or naughty.
By the same token, surely we can talk with a grandmother about that without dismissing her.