Granddaughters ask after missing Grandfather

Harvl I would start your own thread, you may get better responses. As I’m here...I would say just send a card, so you’ve acknowledged it, but that’s it. Do you have children who are grandchildren to this lady? Would they want to be more involved? All the best to you ?

My grandfather died when I was 27 - I had never met him. He left my grandmother when my mum was 15/16 and chose to have nothing to do with his family. My brother and I were told this from an early age and it was never a problem for us. Looking back I think he was the one that missed out. Just be honest with your grandchildren and they will accept it.

Why are the children asking you and not their mother?

I hope you asked her permission before sending the photos!! I’d certainly not want someone who abandoned me to have photos of my children!!

As to the question, you don’t know that his wife didn’t encourage him. She certainly couldn’t force it though

Summerlove
My granddaughters asked because like all children they are naturally interested in their own family, moreover it was in front of my daughter. My daughter never asked me any questions, I suppose because she had been rejected by her father. She didn’t tell me about her letter to grandfather, he did.

my father walked away when i was 3/4, it was not till i was 11 (i stayed with my gran a lot) that i started to ask my gran why she was my gran if she was not my mums mum or my dads mum, she than told me my uncle billy whom i had seen a few times was my dad, he came back when i was 17 for my grans funeral, he did not want to keep in touch but i contacted him when my own son was 5, he still said no even though he had another daughter same age as my son. i left it alone for years but started to look at my mum and thought i want to find him before it's too late, he is 75, i posted a message on missing people on facebook, his daughter saw it and my dads stepson emailed with a phone number, i called and the first thing he said was i have been trying to find you for years, we have met up over the last few years and we get on great, i have no animosity towards him, i told him he was the one that lost out on a great daughter and an amazing grandson and now a great-grandson, he is a sad lonely man in his late 70s and has been on his own since his divorce 20 years ago. depending on the ages of your grandchildren tell them the truth x