Therapists who say parents are always to blame.

I thought a therapist was there to allow you to offload and pour out all your feelings. Then gradually they encourage you to unravel it all and make your own decisions. Their going down the blame route is totally unacceptable.

Good therapists would not be playing the blame game like this Sparkling totally unprofessional.
I agree with Oceanmama find a therapist who is either recommended by a friend or by other professionals.

I do think that there has been a lot of responsibility put on parents (unfairly) over the years in general. I don't think it's unreasonable to acknowledge that we weren't perfect parents. None of us are. Our grown children aren't perfect people either. Nor is it helpful to get into a blame game. With estrangement, I don't think there is anything absolute as each person's situation is very different. I think a good therapist will try to be objective and see the situation in the wider context. Sometimes that might involve challenging a parent's perspective or helping them accept that their children's feelings are what they are, even if the parent doesn't agree with them. If you are looking for therapy, maybe vet the therapist by asking them their perspective on parent-child estrangement. I would only go to someone who indicated that they didn't start out with any assumptions.

What rubbish bet their moms loved reading that.