I want to first clear up the topic of Grandparents Rights in the US. It seems that it is believed that GP have them here. They really dont. With the exception of New York State, there are very specific reasons when a grandparent can sue for rights. That is mostly in the case of death of thier child (the parent) , divorce or the grandparent shows that they have a pre-existing relationship with the grandchild. And that pre-existing relationship has to be substantial like the grandparents raised the child for a period of time. The burdon of proof is on the grandparent. It is a very expensive and long process, as I am sure it is in the UK as well.
If you want to research more, it lists state by state here: www.considerable.com/life/family/grandparent-rights-united-states/
As you know, I am estranged from my mother and she has no contact with my children. She was emotionally abuse and did a lot of damage to my kids. You know what is funny though? No one believes she is an abuser. She puts on a really great face. She is just the nicest most kind person there is. She loves to tell everyone how her evil EAC is keeping her from a relationship with thier "family".
I TRIED to keep our issues away from the kids so they could have a relationship with her. She looked me right in the eye and told me that she would NEVER talk to my kids about our issues. Then she turned around while my kids were spending the night and tried to alienate my kids from me. My youngest ended up suicidal and we are now, 3 years later, still dealing with the effects of this emotional abuse.
And yea, I know, not all GP are estranged because they are abusive. So no need to remind me of that. I know all of your viewpoints.
My opinion is now that if my parent makes no attempt to have at the very least a civil relationship with me, they dont get to have a relationship with my children until such time my children are adults and can choose themselves.
I would never encourage anyone to estrange, however if an EAC is experiencing problems in thier relationship with the GP, I would encourage them to keep detailed records of what those issues are with proof, because there usually is in this day and age, in case estrangement happens. If my mother ever tried to obtain grandparents rights, I would pull out the big guns and show the world exactly who she is. Luckily in the US, and especially the state i live in, there is really no such thing as grandparents rights.