Condolences for the loss of your Mum lin
You kindly invited your daughter to the funeral, giving her a choice and she made a choice that presumably she felt was best for herself
I suggest that if it is physical items left to your daughter, you ask your cousin to pass them over
If it is money, I suggest you write to your daughter telling her that and ask what she would like you to do to get what is gets to her. Ask your cousin to pass the letter on
After that I think you have to leave her alone and wait
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