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OP,
I would seriously concentrate on your own healing and leave your daughter handle her own.
She is sadly the product of her environment where she had no chance to escape as she was a child (the victim in that situation)
I dont know if she would be happy knowing you discuss her issues (with personal information) with other people.
A person cannot be diagnosed by proxy and by 2nd hand information, that is terribly unethical and unprofessional.
You are right, she is the product of her environment, through no fault of her own and also the victim of all that was inflicted on her. It is hardly surprising that she is troubled. And whilst I may be discussing her issues here it is anonymous and this is, after all, a support group for such things.
Whilst a person cannot be diagnosed by proxy or second hand information, it was not a diagnosis it was a suggestion made by a professional (albeit recently retired) who has known us both all of our lives and who has always had our best interests at heart.
I am acutely aware that I can in no way influence whether or not she seeks help, or indeed any other choice she makes, I can, as a mother who loves her, hope that she chooses well with the best interests of her children at heart.
As I stated, I am looking to my own healing and making efforts to ensure that I am as well as I can be. Sometimes being able to speak anonymously, somewhere like this, to see ones (sometimes, even to me, hard to believe) story written down is the beginning of therapy