I considered estrangement from my mother when I was about 30 in particular because of some things she did and said about my husband. I decided that I couldn’t do that because I wanted my children to have grandparents and my father was a good grandparent and my mother was not the best grandparent but was okay most of the time. And I was conditioned to tolerate my mother’s treatment and I covered up to other people how difficult and awful her behaviour often was and I was ashamed of it. I pretended that we had a good relationship but actually the truth was different. Now she’s old I couldn’t possibly estrange her because difficult as it is I know she’s dependent on me. She’s still got fire and she’s still nasty at times but following advice from Gransnetters, the last time this happened a couple of weeks ago, I got up and walked out. I’ve never done that before. I didn’t visit then for three days and then I went on holiday. When we returned I went to see her and ignored what had happened. If she is nasty to me again, I will leave again.
I can’t estrange her at this point in her life. It’s too late. If I was going to do that I should have done it years ago and believe me, I would have had good cause.
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