Do abusive people know they are abusive?

So I always thought passive aggression was the little messages meant to dig at you in comments that otherwise look polite...

What is that called?

Thank you. I've often wondered!

www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/passive-aggressive-examples

This may be of interest for those asking for clarification

Do not worry, proper gravy that you can't see through

Don't forget the gravy.

Will do my best

Violet turn up the heat really high in the oven. You can rescue those potatoes! ?

Madgran
Same here, reading it all but have decided this one’s not for me
Enjoy your supper Violetsky

Yeah no problem, just cover them with gravy.

Never mind the potatoes vs no one cares about them, it's the chops they'll be really bothered about.

No I don't agree Smileless roast potatoes are the best! Pork chops - not interested! (I don't like meat!) ?

O actually forgot to turn the grill on so will go focus on the chops now

Are you sure?

Just look at this mess

Never mind the potatoes vs no one cares about them, it's the chops they'll be really bothered about.

@Smileless

No sweat off my back

I hope you can save both your pork chops and your potatoes Violet

I think this is an interesting discussion, good thread to start. I haven't contributed so far but have read through it all.

I truly can't see anything said that suggests you are being blamed for anything though.

And I will ensure to ignore all subsequent comments from you Stiller.

Smileless2012

Well I don't want to take you away from your pork chops.

My husband is going to laugh at me "chatting away online again were you?"

I should have just not tried to salvage the potatoes and mashed them, stupid choice to shove them in the oven.

I must admit, im the sort of person whose brain needs to be kept busy. My job more than accomplishes this and knowing I have 5 weeks off... ugh

That and a trapped nerve and no car at the moment has left me without enough to do and my brain filling the gaps with all sorts of questions and nonsense.

Got lots to look forward to starting tomorrow though

Thank you.

Kate1949

Can someone explain what passive aggressive means please? I've never understood it. Thanks.

It’s a cowardly manner of expressing disdain.

Can someone explain what passive aggressive means please? I've never understood it. Thanks.

@Smileless,
My perception is mine. I don’t need to be told how to interpret what I read. It was passive aggressive. I don’t need anyone else to dictate to me how to receive the rudeness. Your opinion is yours; mine is mine. Agree to disagree. But I will ensure to ignore all subsequent comments from that poster.

Well I don't want to take you away from your pork chops.

Smileless2012

Well it doesn't help when someone posts "I see through passive aggression quite well ftr" and it is directed at someone who clearly isn't being passive aggressive.

There's been a lot of unpleasantness on this forum recently and people are reacting accordingly.

I know, it's very hard not to feel like I am being blamed so I'm just focusing on saving the pork chops

Well it doesn't help when someone posts "I see through passive aggression quite well ftr" and it is directed at someone who clearly isn't being passive aggressive.

There's been a lot of unpleasantness on this forum recently and people are reacting accordingly.

It wasn’t helpful to unnecessarily question why I am engaging with any individual poster either, but here we are. Rudeness shouldn’t be okay, no matter the source. If it’s directed at me I respond accordingly. I’ve learned in life to nip bullying in the bud before it turns into a monster. Past experiences and all